Broken relationship. Stepchildren. What do I do now?

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Ok I so left my ex partner but he has children which I was close to as with a few years. My question is what do I do now in terms of contact. Although I love them I’m thinking for us that it would be best to cut off contact . He has been getting the kids to ring me to say they love me but I don’t want anything to do with him (it’s not the kids fault) yet at the same time I did a lot for the children but don’t want to make things more messy than they already are.

It is absolutely shit of him to throw his kids into it asking them to ring you, you may feel the pressure but it is very damaging for the children.

I would stop picking up the phone gradually or block him altogether.

@TheBigDilemma

It is absolutely shit of him to throw his kids into it asking them to ring you, you may feel the pressure but it is very damaging for the children.

I would stop picking up the phone gradually or block him altogether.

Yep.. it’s emotional blackmail.

He's being really unreasonable and cruel to his children. I agree you need to just cut loose. You'd only be prolonging his shitty behaviour

He has been getting the kids to ring me to say they love me
This is appalling. Is he annoyed you left him? What was he like as a father? Im betting you did some of the parenting for him and he would like that back.

Block him btw. Easier for everyone in the end.

Block him. You can't have a relationship with them without him and he's acting like a twat.

So sorry but if he is using his kids like that it is best just to cut contact completely. If he was mature about it there might have been a chance of maintaining a relationship if thats what everyone wanted but even then it would be tricky. Maybe send them a book with a nice inscription they can remember you by if you wanted.

In an attempt to avoid getting ready fir work, i did a back search, op.

Block him immediately. Dont even think about it. He sounds absolutely vile.