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Seeing DSC without DC

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KindlyKanga · 28/02/2022 22:04

DH is now slightly upset with me because he is seeing DSC this weekend coming, and I'm not going.

We have shared DC and my sister is going to look after them for the day so I can get some rest. He's upset I'm not seeing lunch out with DSC as rest. Why would I want to be with his children when I'm having a break from my own?

Anyway he's mildly disappointed I just want to veg out and do housework without any children in the way. Just venting really as I can't say this stuff to him as it will only upset him more.

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RoyKentsChestHair · 28/02/2022 22:08

YANBU - enjoy your break and don’t waste it doing chores. Go and get yourself a coffee and cake somewhere nice and relax!

TicTacHoh · 01/03/2022 05:45

YANBU, ask him why he can see his kids on his own. Too many DF's rely on SM's to join in with too much of the heavy lifting

TicTacHoh · 01/03/2022 05:45

Why he *can't

LadyCluck · 01/03/2022 06:02

YANBU
Leave him to his disappointment. The SC will probably appreciate some time with just their Dad anyway.
Enjoy your rest and don’t spend it doing loads of housework. GrinCakeBrew

Flatandhappy · 01/03/2022 06:06

If his kids are young adults and lunch is somewhere nice with a glass or two of wine (and no driving for you) involved I might see how he would be surprised you turned it down. Otherwise few meals with children could be described as a rest! In any case do what you like, I can never understand why you are supposed to want to hang with children when you have made an effort to have your own elsewhere and too many men rely on new partners way too much rather than just spending time with their children and strengthening their own relationships.

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KindlyKanga · 01/03/2022 06:23

@RoyKentsChestHair

YANBU - enjoy your break and don’t waste it doing chores. Go and get yourself a coffee and cake somewhere nice and relax!
That sounds lovely!
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Frannibananni · 01/03/2022 06:25

Why isn’t he taking your kids?

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KindlyKanga · 01/03/2022 06:26

@TicTacHoh

YANBU, ask him why he can see his kids on his own. Too many DF's rely on SM's to join in with too much of the heavy lifting
He's seen them every week but I won't have seen them for 3+ weeks by this weekend due to Covid they haven't stayed. He seems to feel I should be missing them and jumping at the chance to see them. I do miss them but not in a I'd do anything to see them way.
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KindlyKanga · 01/03/2022 06:29

@Frannibananni

Why isn’t he taking your kids?
Very good question. My sister is looking after DC (only one of them) as she has a DC of similar age and they like a playdate. Very interesting that he hasn't even queried that though..
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CornishGem1975 · 01/03/2022 09:41

Bugger that, enjoy your peace and quiet.

MeridianB · 01/03/2022 19:54

He is being unreasonable. Enjoy your day!

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