I think I'm done

[loluandlale]

I'm stuck between a rock and hard place, I think I need a rant and either a bit of support or a kick up the arse... I have no idea anymore!

I'm done with my SS. My DP has 2 DC, SS is driving me round the bend, SD is the most perfect SD you could ever ask for.
I've posted under names before about SS lying til he's blue in the face about stuff that goes on in our house and mum going mental and I have tried everything, my DP has tried everything and it's getting to the point now that DP had a joke with SS last week and SS went home to his mum crying that DP was rude to him.
It's constant, I've just had poor SD in tears because she's fed up of SS lying about DP and her mum won't listen to her when she tries to tell her the truth,

On top of this, SD told me last week that she knew her mums bf takes drugs, where he gets the from and what drugs are, she's 8 by the way.
My DP rang a charity for advice but he's still not heard back from them.

I am so mentally exhausted by SS shit and mums shit It's getting to the point now where I'm done.
I just feel like crying all the time because there is nothing I can do, I don't feel like I'm supporting SD, SS just twists everything that's ever said to him and I feel for my DP. I just feel useless and part of me wants to walk out. Just to make that more complicated we have a 1 year old together.

How old is he? And does he do this at school and with other people?

It sounds exhausting so you have my sympathy. By done do you mean you’re thinking of ending the relationship?

You have to prioritise your mental health. Your baby needs you happy and sane.

Is living apart from DP a possibility?

How old is SS? Is he old enough to meet dad outside the house and not stay any more?

That said if you're done you're done and I don't blame you!

Oh love 💐 so firstly this sounds rubbish.

You cannot control SS behaviour or the mums but you can limit its impact. Minimise contact with the ex and continue to have boundaries at your house. SS is acting out because he wants those boundaries removed using his Dm to do it. Do not let that happen, for DSD sake especially. Ultimately the ex only has as much control in your house as you let her

Is she old enough for a phone ? Give her a way to get in touch if things go wonky and say day or night you need us we will be there. Be the place where she is safe to talk about things.

You get to decide your own breaking point and if your there your there and it's hard and unfair ! Xx

@AnneLovesGilbert

He's 10, I would have thought by now he would have a good idea what's right and wrong but clearly not.

It is exhausting, I don't know I feel all over the place because I'd be so broken if I left and I'd know I'd break my DP too.
We couldn't live separately, neither could afford it so money wise it would make no sense.

SD knows I'm here for her whenever she needs to talk, she was telling me earlier that her mum has called her a snitch for telling me and her dad stuff but I've said to her if it's important to her then it's important to us and she must talk about it and not hold it in because the only person she will upset is herself.

We've given up with mum completely, this is the millionth time we've spoke about issues and have planned to sit down all of us that are involved with the SC and she's not bothered and the same with SS the amount of soft conversations had and he just twists them and make them out as if DP is evil.