Share some bat shit stories you have experienced being part of blended family

[candlelightsatdawn]

As some of you will know I'm a SM and part of a joyful blended family which has been crackers of late. Had some bad news re the baby but hoping for a miracle (please don't ask what's wrong im trying to keep self on level for today as have DSD and DD tonight and if asked im likely to break)

So in some vain attempt to distract myself im inviting SM, mums and everyone in between to share some of the battiest things that have happened to you as part of being a blended family. Like the most ridiculous things that have made you think im at the mad hatters tea party.

I feel if we can't laugh about these things or at least say them out loud some of us (
Probably just me might go mad)

I can guarantee that by the end
This won’t be lighthearted or funny!

@lentilsforever maybe, not maybe but it will be truthful.

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@lentilsforever maybe, not maybe but it will be truthful.
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No guarantees on that either

@lentilsforever I'm confused so why are you posting 😏

My MIL has always treated me horribly. 35 years ago FIL had an affair (he’s still with SMIL) and left her. She has remarried and divorced since but is still incredibly bitter.

DH’s first marriage was short and miserable from even before it started. It ended with his ex wife’s adultery. I didn’t know him at all until well after it was over.

However, MIL insists on treating me as the OW (and basically punishing me for SMIL and FIL’s affair). She makes it very clear that his first wife is the real wife and his first family is the only one that matters. She even makes comments about the genetic inferiority of our shared DS.

The really absurd thing about this is that MIL and his ex never liked each other. But since the marriage ended they’ve sort of banded together under the pretence that they’re both poor victims of their ex-husbands. It’s utterly bizarre.

@BeyondOurReef
Why is this DNA donor still your life enough for you to know her thoughts on your child's genetics??? I'd go scorched earth. If my DH still wanted to see his mum then fine but I wouldn't want her name lifted under my roof. At all.
That's just awful!

[quote Youseethethingis]@BeyondOurReef
Why is this DNA donor still your life enough for you to know her thoughts on your child's genetics??? I'd go scorched earth. If my DH still wanted to see his mum then fine but I wouldn't want her name lifted under my roof. At all.
That's just awful! [/quote]
Oh. Since the overt insults to my child, I’ve had nothing to do with the woman.

But it is an example of blended family batshittery.

@candlelightsatdawn I think this thread will be catnip to the Daily Fail, so will point you to this more uplifting thread today:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4394904-Things-I-learned-too-late-in-life

My ex's mum accused me of driving his 30 odd year old brother to abuse little girls because I wore v necked jumpers. Apparently it was obviously sexually frustrating him that I had breasts and was clothing them in wool.

@BeyondOurReef I cannot believe what I have just read. That is complete and utter batshittery at its finest !

Actually mental ?!? How on earth is it your fault ?! Honestly what is it about blended families that seems to be a beacon for this type of behaviour ?!

@BeyondOurReef

My MIL has always treated me horribly. 35 years ago FIL had an affair (he’s still with SMIL) and left her. She has remarried and divorced since but is still incredibly bitter.

DH’s first marriage was short and miserable from even before it started. It ended with his ex wife’s adultery. I didn’t know him at all until well after it was over.

However, MIL insists on treating me as the OW (and basically punishing me for SMIL and FIL’s affair). She makes it very clear that his first wife is the real wife and his first family is the only one that matters. She even makes comments about the genetic inferiority of our shared DS.

The really absurd thing about this is that MIL and his ex never liked each other. But since the marriage ended they’ve sort of banded together under the pretence that they’re both poor victims of their ex-husbands. It’s utterly bizarre.

How? How? How do you have a relationship with your MIL

Making comments about you inferiority of your DS?

She would never step foot in my home again. Ever

[quote SpaceshiptoMars]@candlelightsatdawn I think this thread will be catnip to the Daily Fail, so will point you to this more uplifting thread today:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4394904-Things-I-learned-too-late-in-life[/quote]
I’m heading there now! Thank you!

@SpaceshiptoMars thanks spaceship. I'm on that one actually secretly reading. Although the comments about staying single for a peaceful life are ringing in my ears lol

@CaputApriDefero there's disfunction and then that with added bit of misogyny thrown in. I would have started calling myself the woollen harlet and stick a scarlet letter over my boobs just in case anyone didn't get it !

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@BeyondOurReef I cannot believe what I have just read. That is complete and utter batshittery at its finest !

Actually mental ?!? How on earth is it your fault ?! Honestly what is it about blended families that seems to be a beacon for this type of behaviour ?![/quote]
My MIL is a very special woman.

DH now admits that she’s been a big problem in every relationship he’s ever had. But the blended family thing seems to have exacerbated her already awful personality and behaviour.

She’s projecting all over the place. She’s so desperate to see herself 35 years ago in his ex (and TBF, his ex is awful - he did kind of marry his mother there 😂) that she’s convinced herself that I must be SMIL.

She also completely refuses to admit that DS has any resemblance to DH. None at all. Which is hilarious because he is his father’s mini-me. He looks absolutely nothing like me. She insists that the SC look exactly like him (not really; they look a lot like their mother). This is all part of her weird rejection of our relationship and obsession with his first family. It’s just ridiculous.

As I said, I have no relationship with her at all. I never have really but now I’ve just drawn a line and I’m not having her nonsense in my life any more. If DH wants to take the SC to visit her, he’s welcome to. The rest of us will stay here and enjoy not seeing her.

@CaputApriDefero

My ex's mum accused me of driving his 30 odd year old brother to abuse little girls because I wore v necked jumpers. Apparently it was obviously sexually frustrating him that I had breasts and was clothing them in wool.

Oh those wooly jumpers. They’re well known to cause criminal activity. 🙄

@CaputApriDefero

My ex's mum accused me of driving his 30 odd year old brother to abuse little girls because I wore v necked jumpers. Apparently it was obviously sexually frustrating him that I had breasts and was clothing them in wool.

Well.. that's just weird!