Step children and social media

[FlattCatt]

I was just wondering whether you post photos of your step children on social media, and if so, how often?

I don't post pictures of any children on social media.

I have now adult nieces and nephews and had conversations with them nearly a decade ago. They weren't happy with their own parents posting pictures of them on social media let alone any other adult in the family. They basically asked us all to delete them causing a rift with some of their parents.

So while my SC is on social media anything that isn't a baby photo is due to their mum. My child isn't on social media at all.

No. I wouldn’t. I also post no photos of my children anywhere on SM. For very good reason. Their privacy, their choice as to what they post when they are old enough.

I'm a stepmum and a mum, I post the occasional picture of DSC if there's a pic of DC with them in. Or it's their birthday or something. I offered to meet with their mum years back before I met DSC but she didn't want to and has been very toxic ever since. I feel like these sorts of things could have been ironed out at the start if we'd been amicable but it wasn't to be. DSC have been in my life since they were toddlers so I've been a big part of their upbringing and we are close. Their dad is happy and it's his opinion I go by now.

@insidenumber5

Despite somehow becoming the person who paid for my XP's children's phone contracts, and having their phone contracts in my name, I received a barrage of abuse from their mum for just having them as friends on SM (I hadn't put any photos of them up on my SM and they had sent me friend requests!) she made me delete them as friends, but didn't tell the kids that, so they were confused when they tried to 'add' me again and I didn't accept. I was still deemed worthy enough to continue to pay their phone contracts though

Why did you agree to that?! If my SCs mother said that to me I'd block and ignore her! It's up to you and the SC who they're friends with!

I dont post pics of SD unless in a group or something. I posted a pic of my baby boy holding a scan photo of his unborn baby sister and got an aggy comment from SDs auntie saying she should have been in the pic...(because i tagged DP it came up on his page, we're not friends, SDs mum has never wanted to meet me). It really upset me and caused an argument between partner and I. I feel like took away a special moment for me and really pissed me off!

@harryclr

I dont post pics of SD unless in a group or something. I posted a pic of my baby boy holding a scan photo of his unborn baby sister and got an aggy comment from SDs auntie saying she should have been in the pic...(because i tagged DP it came up on his page, we're not friends, SDs mum has never wanted to meet me). It really upset me and caused an argument between partner and I. I feel like took away a special moment for me and really pissed me off!

If it makes you feel any better the first person we told about my pregnancy (because she was crashing at ours at the time) immediately said "have you told DSS's mum yet?" Some people are just really thoughtless.

My partner of 6 years has a step child with his ex with who he is still in contact with, she keeps send him pictures of him her and her mother when they were together, is this ok i have mixed feelings over it, his biological child who he had with the step child mother dont do this, i dont know why the step chidl dose.

I’ve posted a couple of family pictures over the years but I wouldn’t post loads, I think if you are going to post pictures like that you need to have a private profile.

My sons SM has picture of her and my Son as her profile picture and “Stepmumma” in her bio. She was the OW while I was pregnant with him, honestly it gives me the absolute rage but I keep my cool for my Sons sake.
She also has a few failed attempts at being an influencer, to date they haven’t taken off but I would really be against her using him in content as I just don’t agree with people making money off their children on social media

I’m a step mum to an adult step child and I have 2 children with DH who are late teens. Social media wasn’t really a thing when SC was growing up so no pics posted but probably wouldn’t have done anyway as I don’t post pics of children that aren't mine.

I have posted pics of my children as they’ve been growing up on family holidays etc but SC never joined us as was in their 20’s. On birthdays eg DH I do a SM post with photos on and include equal number of photos that include SC so as not to make them feel left out or r any less important.

However SC’s spouse has a real issue with me and makes lots of snarky comments like “no one knows SC exists”

I have never hidden the fact that I have a SC and when asked how many children I always say 2 of my own and a SC who is grown up but I guess on balance on my SM there are more photos of my bio kids than SC because I live with them and SC never has lived with us. By the time I was active on SM SC was spending very little time with us as was in his late teens.

SC and spouse were at my workplace (I work somewhere with literally over 100 people) a few years back and a couple of people said they hadn’t realised I had a SC and this has caused a lot of resentment - not from SC but their spouse seems to be holding a grudge.

sometimes as a step parent you can’t win!

I did mind with the first SM - she posted as if they were one big happy family and that was so far from the truth -as my 2 were being dropped out of all"family" activities and treated like second class citizens.
Did not say anything as would have been accused of stalking- now stopped because they split up thank fully

I’ve never posted pictures of my sdc, if I’ve taken a nice photo or we’ve done something, I send the photos to DH and he can post them if he wants. My kids dad and new wife live 100s of miles away but if they did see them I wouldn’t mind her posting photos. But I know sdcs mum would mind, so I don’t

Sometimes, if we’ve been on holiday together or a particular event. But no, I don’t post them in the same way I post my own child. That’s for their dad to do.

Should add - my daughter has a step mum and I wouldn’t mind if she posted photos of her occasionally. Perhaps she does, I don’t know to be honest.

A friend of a friend posts about her step child in the same way your daughters step mother does and I do find that quite odd, to be honest. I don’t think I would like all the “my girl” sort of posting if it was about my child and I wouldn’t post about my step children in that way either.