Petty but this is really annoying!

[LiterallyPineapple]

Whenever I buy something as a bit of a treat for me/DH, he always always invites DSC to have same (which ends up being loads).

I went shopping eaelier and bought DSC some treats and then something me and DH really like which we don't have often as it's a bit expensive as treats go.

He's just gone and got them out now and they are currently being scoffed by the kids (who also have what I bought them as a Friday treat too).

I'm so pissed off.

To have some*

And what does he say when you tell him?

Stop buying them or have them for yourself in your bedroom. Hide them in your knicker drawer or something.

If he knows you wanted the treats for just you 2 so you'd get a decent share, I'd have the hump too.

I’m sorry but I don’t have ‘my’ food and the ‘kids’ food. We all share. So why do you think it’s different with your step kids? It’s mean.

Retain control of said items and distribute them when you want. Don't give him free access.

@Feelingoktoday

I’m sorry but I don’t have ‘my’ food and the ‘kids’ food. We all share. So why do you think it’s different with your step kids? It’s mean.

That's you.

It would only be different treatment if I allowed my own kids but not DSC. I don't.

I literally told him I'd put them away until kids were in bed!

Anything I'm not sharing with the kids is eaten once they're in bed. I don't think item to not share, just to do it in front of them. Here's a twirly wurley whilst I have a big bowl of decadent ice cream feels much different to here's a curly wurly and having your ice-cream latee

@SleepingStandingUp

Anything I'm not sharing with the kids is eaten once they're in bed. I don't think item to not share, just to do it in front of them. Here's a twirly wurley whilst I have a big bowl of decadent ice cream feels much different to here's a curly wurly and having your ice-cream latee

This is what I was going to do and I told him that.

My parents did the same with me so I don't think it's an unusual thing to do. It's nice to have a treat to reward yourselves after a long week of parenting/work/ to have couple bonding time with.

I literally told him I'd put them away until kids were in bed I think you need to put them away somewhere he can't find them.

Tell him to stop doing it or just hide them

Have you asked him why?

This is what I was going to do and I told him that.

And what does he say when you say, "er DH those were for later"

Yes hide it next time you’ve bought something for the two of you, and/or don’t tell him about it until you’re ready to bring it out to eat.

Or just don't tell DH and eat it all yourself.

Do ask him if he remembers you saying the two of you would eat whatever it is when the DSC are in bed.

I think this is just different mindsets. He’s not trying to be annoying.

Some people like to share and others don’t. Your husband does.

I think if you want treats that you’re not willing to share you need to bring them out only when you’re alone.

Did people not notice that OP also bought Friday treats for the kids? They didn't just get nothing while the grown ups live high on the hog.

@Skiptheheartsandflowers

Did people not notice that OP also bought Friday treats for the kids? They didn't just get nothing while the grown ups live high on the hog.

Yes, I'm sure that people have noticed that fact. But this is in Step parenting and every one knows that on MN all step mothers are fucking evil cunts who hate their SC and wish that they were dead. No exceptions.

@Skiptheheartsandflowers

Did people not notice that OP also bought Friday treats for the kids? They didn't just get nothing while the grown ups live high on the hog.

I did. And…? How do my and other responses not reflect that?

Don’t tell your other half, just produce the treats you got for the adults when the kids are in bed.

Make him go out to the store and replace the damn treats!!!!!

@EKGEMS

Make him go out to the store and replace the damn treats!!!!!

This 😁

Ask him why he is ignoring what you suggested. Does he disagree with your plan or does he just not listen?

It's fairly easy to control. Don't tell your DH until the kids are in bed. Job done.