My partners children (SD5 and SD10) come round for a night in the week and EOW. I have a really good relationship with them (albeit I've had issues with my partner expecting me to do too much of the parenting/drudgery - which seems to have improved a lot after putting my foot down).
The last couple of times they've been here, SD10 has wet the bed. They did both go through a bad stage of this after their parents divorce (long before I was on the scene) obviously triggered by the stress of it, but they've both been dry at nights since.
SD10 has tried to hide it with towels/throws when its happened so she's obviously embarrassed about it. I only noticed because the younger one mentioned a towel being put down, and I thought she might've started her period and checked her bed when she went out.
As it's happened more than the once we think we need to address it with her. She's starting high school this year, in the middle of moving house (her mums) and both parents have introduced new partners in the last 18 months, so it could just be general insecurity/anxiety. However, we need to rule out that it's not anything more serious.
She seems happy and upbeat, if a little clingy/young for her age, when she's here, but her aunt noticed she was more subdued than normal on a recent day out with them.
We think I might be the best person to talk to her, as she opens up a bit more to me than her dad. I'm just wondering how to approach this? I don't want to overstep or come across as pushy/embarrass her but its important that we know what's wrong, and really need to get it out of her.
In the meantime we're going to try to keep it as calm and nurturing an environment as possible when she's here, and maybe look after her as though she's a little younger than she is for a while whilst we deal with whatever it is. Does anyone have any other suggestions/advice?