My husband and I have been together 11 years, married for 9.My SS was 4 when his parents split and 5 when his dad and I got together, he’s now nearly 16. For all of this time he’s come over every other weekend, spent 4 weeks holiday per year and his dad has also seen him 1 midweek night per week.
SS mum has not encouraged the relationship and has not been positive about husband or his family.
During last year he spent very little time at our house, his mum didn’t want him to be here during COVID so his dad has seen him every week, most times just for a walk as things were closed.
He then decided he didn’t want to stay over here any more. We do understand that he has friends and wants to see them at weekends and that not many teenagers prefer spending time with parents and step mums. The midweek evening continued.
In the last few weeks he has been cancelling the midweek visit also, usually saying he’s not feeling well, got a lot of schoolwork. My husband popped round to see him last week (he didn’t phone first just was nearby and went to SS house) they went out for a meal and SS was very uneasy and said he was stressed about school. My husband sent a message to SS mum and said how out of sorts SS was, mum replied that SS needed to be treated with the respect he deserved and that just dropping by to see him without prior arrangement was completely unacceptable.
SS has now blocked husband from phone, husband has sent another message to SS mum saying he’s been trying to contact SS but not getting replies, SS mum not replying.
For info, over the last year aunties and granny have been messaging but getting no replies and SS has been disengaging with lots of his dads side of family.
Has anyone else experienced this? Any suggestions for us?