Fuming!

[sausagesandbeanz]

So my lovely SD (6) has just let slip that her nannie (ex's mum) has been taking her and her brother swimming during lockdown.
I appreciate that the pool is closed and no one else is supposed to be going BUT what if other employees have been doing it too?!

On top of this, she took DSS to a football Christmas party swimming in December when we were all on bloody lockdown!

Here's me sat here with a 4 month old, slowly going crazy, not going anywhere following the rules and there's the nan taking the kids for a dip whenever she bloody fancies!

Absolutely fuming! AIBU to be this livid?
I know there's literally nothing I can do about it unless I dob her in... I think I'm here to just rant really 😂

[quote Magda72]@sausagesandbeanz I'm sorry but I think all those telling you to calm down/cease being frothy etc. are akin to gaslighting.
No, there's nothing you can do about it now & yes, it's after the fact & everyone is safe & well, but that's hardly the point & you are perfectly entitled to your feelings.
The very fact that nobody bothered to tell you this was going on during a very intense lockdown when everyone was supposed to be staying at home AND when you and oh could have been left exposed & vulnerable with a newborn was totally not cool & for what it's worth I'd be livid too.
People can behave how they want but NO ONE takes liberties with my safety & the safety of my children.
I'm not sure what you can do about it now but you have every right to be angry.
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I too can sit around all day muttering about bygones (in fact, not even bygones. Possibility of bygones), but what does that accomplish other than make you and everything you touch miserable? My God, get a hobby. Swimming, perhaps.

[quote sausagesandbeanz]@Insomnia5 aye but it was at the height of everything and I've only just found out now.

You are right, we are all fine thank god BUT just the thought that a stupid thing like that could have made any of us ill, I'm on MAT leave so if my partner got it and had time off work we'd have been up stuff creak without a paddle to say the least!

If we'd both have got it who would have took care of my new born?

I just thought it was incredibly selfish and that the DM new and didn't bat an eyelid! [/quote]
I'd be refusing to have the kids back in the house until I was fully vaccinated plus 3 weeks

@Creepygnochi

I think I won't take up swimming thanks considering I'm dealing with a 4 month postpartum body that I can't cope with because I don't feel like it looks like "me" but thanks for the advice.

What I was going to say is; on reflection I got angry very quickly but as I've said before its little things that keep happening, they all add up until you blow. There's literally nothing I can or could have done but in my personal opinion it was an idiotic thing to do but not everyone shares the same opinion in life which I do appreciate. Just wanted a vent really 🤷🏼‍♀️

You would have had very different responses if you'd posted this in December or January.

Things are looking hopeful so most people can't be arsed clinging onto stuff from months ago. Not long until you can go for a swim with your baby.

@Creepygnochi I've loads of hobbies but thanks for the advice - I needed your input on that.

Telling people to nullify their anger is one of the main causes of mental distress in people - fact.
Anger is a very usual emotion so long as we use it constructively.

I'm actually with you on this. It was against your and their dads wishes. It's not something that I would be happy with at all.

My MIL does things like this when she is looking after our son. Makes decisions like letting her 87 year old mother take him to the park. He came home last time with a huge rope burn in his armpit and didn't tell me. He did when I got him in the bath. He'd fallen off the rope climbing frame thing and slipped down with his arm inside it.
She claimed she didn't know anything about it. Turns out her mum wasn't even near by when it happened as she was chopsing to a stranger in the park. He'd fallen down, couldn't find her and was sat crying. It was all weeping and sore. Other things have been leaving him on the side of a main town road as my nephew had run off across the road. He was 4 at the time. Alone with his other cousin in a pushchair. Again not told until he told me and I had to ask if he was fibbing.

When you leave your children with other people you expect them to do what is right. The pools are closed for a reason. If other staff had people in the pool that is not acting responsibly.

I'd be livid. I'm all for getting back to normal. But we need to be sensible.

@Creepygnochi I've loads of hobbies but thanks for the advice - I needed your input on that.

Telling people to nullify their anger is one of the main causes of mental distress in people - fact.
Anger is a very usual emotion so long as we use it constructively.

@ForThePurposeOfTheTape

You know I was thinking the very same thing after I had all the 'don't be so petty' replies!

@JS711

I'm so sorry your MIL felt she had the right to do any of that! This is exactly why I worry about leaving my own DS with my mum or my MIL as they both can be nightmares (MIL less so)

I'm a swimming teacher its disgraceful we all been at home on furlough wanted to work but can't she could cause the centre be fined heavily if it was discovered. What is worrying is the lack of lifeguards, something could have potentially happened.

I'm sorry OP but I think you're being a bit unreasonable. It was a daft thing to do because she could have been fined or lost her job...but that's hardly your problem and they were highly unlikely to catch covid in an empty swimming pool.

From your posts it sounds like there are some larger issues at play. Concentrate on them.

Lucky them. Good for them. Don't begrudge a little kid swimming at all