Double standards

[Suzyrtyyg]

Seems to be a common thread . My dsd is currently claiming UC whilst working as a hairdresser , her sister pretending looking after someone shielding so furloughed whilst out seeing people . If I say to DH these things are illegal I get shot down meanwhile he moans about mine who are actually well behaved don’t break the rules . Just having a rant on here as no where else to do so really 🙄

Do your children like him?

Not so much after he shouted at me that they abuse me when one asked for some water as I walked past 3 min before her online lesson was supposed to start 🙄

Why have a rant when you could tell him to shop moaning about your kids? Ignore what his are up to, as long as they’re not putting you or your children in danger then leave them to do. They’re not your problem.

Your problem is living with someone who thinks he can hassle your children. If he’s being unfair then tell him to wind his neck in or you’ll leave him. You get the choice, your children don’t. If this isn’t a positive environment for them to live in then you owe it to them to leave him.

X post. Why are you putting up with him shouting at you? Do you want your daughter putting up with being shouted at by her future partners? You’re showing her that’s normal and what she should expect in future.

@AnneLovesGilbert

X post. Why are you putting up with him shouting at you? Do you want your daughter putting up with being shouted at by her future partners? You’re showing her that’s normal and what she should expect in future.

I agree with this. Your daughter deserves better and so do you.

Why was my post deleted???

Why was my post deleted???

Depends on what you said.

What I said was that that yes - there are many threads where people move in with other people and the children- of either or both parties - bear the brunt of the shitty behaviour of the adults in the relationship.
Was there something wrong with that ?

I agreed with the op that it is indeed a common thread