On the whole, my SS's are well behaved. I don't have many issues with them being cheeky, they can be a little thoughtless but so can all teens (I have a teen daughter - 19) And I feel bad for posting because of that. But I acknowledge that I have a real issue with my younger SS. I've been married 2 years and we've been together 5. The younger boy (15) has been over-babied, which I noticed from day 1 and has never acted age appropriate since I've known him. In fact people always assume he is a year or 2 younger than he is due to the way he acts. As a back story, there were lots of issues with excessive contact from his mother which I would expect with a younger child, not one his age (which stopped about a year ago), over using xbox when here, not wanting to eat many meals and talking in a baby voice at times and he has fortunately come along from those in the last year but the main issues now are with eating, manners, and the fact that he never sits still. It's got the point where I DREAD them coming. I can't contain my irritation and last night I actually removed myself from the situation and went to bed at 7pm. Basically, he stuffs food into his mouth and keeps putting it in without swallowing and ends up with a huge chipmonk cheek. His brother joked that he keeps chewing for 10 minutes after his plate is empty. I just think it is the height of bad manners. Then he was shovelling rice from his fingers onto his fork. Again, not good table manners. He also is frequently sick and in my opinion, it's the amount of food he shovels into his mouth, which causes him to gag. I just can't stand it any more. He always spills, wipes his fingers on my cushions. And then for the rest of the night while we watch TV he moves around on a chair, constantly moving his toes, extending his legs, arms, draping himself all over and clicking his fingers. I just think if the older two (my older SS 17 and my daughter 19) my husband would think it was weird. There are other issues about him constantly asking for treats when he won't eat his meal but lets not go there. I try and sit away from him because I don't want to see but I can't help but be drawn to it and I honestly hate being in his company because of it. I've talked to my husband about it many times but basically, and he has said this he a.doesn't notice or b. doesn't want to say anything because he doesn't like to tell him off. Then he feels bad and tells me he's a failure and how sorry he is and I end up feeling bad. So I end up saying something to SS and then I'm the bad guy. I react so badly to it now because I'm so SO fed up. I have tried to talk to myself about it and tell my self it's 3 days ever other weekend just make it a pleasant time but it's been going on for 5 years. I basically don't want to be in the same room as him. This morning we made sausage sandwiches for breakfast and rather than have the sandwich he helped himself to a sausage and came and sat on my new fabric sofa with it in his hand, dripping oil. DH didn't notice and I said 'can you get a plate please?'. Queue grumpy fact - he got up went into the kitchen, stuffed the lot in his face and came back in immediately and sat down with his bulging cheek instead of just getting a plate. I don't have any problem with the older boy, who does not behave in this way. How can I stop myself feeling this way? I don't know if it's worse at the moment because I'm due on. Has anyone else been tipped over the edge by the little things? Or are the little things tipping me over the edge because of ALL the things we've gone through with him over the years? I'm so fed up.