AIBU?

[sausagesandbeanz]

So my DH hasn't spoken to me all day for 2 reasons apparently...

1. I said that's his daughter was his daughter... he didn't like that although I was stating a fact

1. I told him he procrastinates on doing jobs round the house ( because i was procrastinating on going shopping this morning) which he says he would do, not that I ask him to do them. His answer to this was that he goes to work and has his kids to look after (4 days every 4 days may I add) and that he can't just sit watching TV all day putting in a washing now and then (clearly having a dig at me)

Now just to clarify I am on maternity leave in a bloody lockdown so I don't know what he expects me to do... I do all the cleaning, washing, ironing, looking after the baby, the shopping. The one thing I do not do is cook, which if he really didn't want to do i would do.

the reason i said his daughter was his daughter is because he expected me to stop her eating too many sweets to which i said 'well shes your daughter im not telling her'

again to clarify i dont not do things for his 2DC but i dont do everything like make them lunch, take them to school, tell them off... actually i think thats the only things i dont do.

His stance on this now is that hes got 3 kids to look after but im not to worry about 'his 2'
forgetting the fact that the third i deal with all day every day and he jumps in on the odd occasion.

so... with all that, AIBU to say what i said? and to be offended that he literally thinks i do sweet FA all day for him, the house and all the kids.

I'd just ignore him not speaking to you. Take the gain he gets from it out of it. You didn't say anything that wasn't factual.

@Rtmhwales

Thank you, he just gets so touchy when I say 'your kids' or 'your daughter' like I'm shirking responsibility... I'm not their mum, they don't need or want another mum!

In the absence of anything more constructive to say, what a twat.

I'd be tempted to call his bluff and let him do everything for his 2. If they ask you for something say ooh dad said he wanted to help you with that and send them to him.

He's the one who will lose out and you'll end up with less of his work to do!

@aSofaNearYou thanks, I think I needed that clarification just so I didn't think I was being an arsehole!

@HeckyPeck ooh I have already, should see the state of the bathroom after 'his kids' have been in there... I'm not touching it!

Irritated on your behalf.
I’d stop doing anything that wasn’t of direct benefit to me and my baby.
Since it’s clearly so little, he probably won’t even notice and if he does he won’t mind doing it himself on top of everything else, poor overworked love that he is.
Meanwhile, more TV time for you

He’s behaving like a twat.

I’ve had this in the past. Let him get on with it. Why don’t these Dads like being reminded that their children are THEIR RESPONSIBILITY?!

90% of the time he's great, I'm lucky because he's not a Disney dad (now that would drive me insane) but there's that 10% where when he's reminded they're his kids he gets a right strop on and tries to say our son is just mine 🙄

@sausagesandbeanz I’m glad he’s great a majority of the time.

For now though dear, feet up, glass of wine and let him get over himself.

[quote sausagesandbeanz]@aSofaNearYou thanks, I think I needed that clarification just so I didn't think I was being an arsehole!

@HeckyPeck ooh I have already, should see the state of the bathroom after 'his kids' have been in there... I'm not touching it! [/quote]
Good on you! Keep it up!