How does your children get on with your partner?

[Kel9]

I’m curious to hear other peoples experiences?

Mine is a working progress i think lol

My boy is 8 years old and his dad and I separated when he was 3. I met my now fiancé a few years later and he met my son when he was 5. He moved in with my son and I a year later.

He’s always got on with my son but it’s not a paternal dad son relationship. He does lots for my son by helping me look after him when I’m working and helps round the house.

My son likes to push boundaries and he’s always trying to show off in front of my fiancé. My fiancé is a bit of a joker and they both constantly muck about which is nice but equally irritating as I’m the bad parent who dishes out rows.

There has been lots I’ve learned to overcome as a blended family and lots to learn. My fiancé comes from a place where every second word is a curse word and it’s not in bad context it’s just how he speaks of course my son thinks it’s hilarious so this has caused me to loose my shit too 🤦‍♀️😂...they wrestle constantly which always ends in tears...

I suppose I maybe had a different vision as to how we would all settle into our new roles but I suppose there’s no hand book.

What’s it like for you guys??? Is it what you expected?

I'm the step parent (almost, I'm engaged but not married yet).

It has been bloody hard. DSS has always been amazing. He has very, very recently become more teenagery, but he will choose to spend time with me, showing me stuff on his phone, playing video games.

DSD has, for the last four months, been lovely to be around. However, for the two years prior made any time with her absolutely awful. Her behaviour was very nearly the end of our relationship not that long ago. The reasons for her behaviour are another matter, and whilst perhaps understandable, not fun to be with.

At the moment, everything is lovely and I'm enjoying being a step mum.

It’s good to hear from the other side of it. It must be daunting for you too!!

I have a lot of respect for my oh who has been patient with my son. Even though he doesn’t see his son as much he still puts effort in with mine. I know that’s hard for him.