Completely fed up with dh's moping

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I'm pulled in at the side of the road writing this having driven around for 3 hours just to get away from dh.
Back story - he normally spends Christmas Eve & the few days before that (work permitting) with his dc (in another town) & then comes home Christmas afternoon after he's dropped them in to their dms. My dd (16) had to have a covid test the day before Christmas Eve due to a classmate having tested positive so all our Christmas arrangements got shot to hell. Dh could only travel on Christmas Eve to give his dc their gifts but could have no contact as while dd's test came back negative she needed a second test yesterday due to cluster regs (we're not in the UK). Now I totally get dh was very disappointed but this was no one's fault as it could just as easily have happened at his end but he's been in foul form all Christmas, just about holding it together in front of my two (who also didn't get to see their df or half sibling) but snapping at me constantly. Dd's 2nd test came back negative this morning so dh went to visit his but is still in foul form. Mine also went to their df's this evening and without that buffer dh has just been awful & I eventually left. I'm just soooo frustrated with his constant moping over this dc & this attitude he has that his dc are really suffering from divorce but that mine are fine. Tonight I really regret having married him. Thanks for reading if you have. I just needed to vent.

You sound like you’ve had a rotten, stressful time. He’s (understandably) disappointed, but it isn’t fair to take it out on you - very strange times at the moment and nobody’s fault. Maybe having that conversation with him might help? You can acknowledge his disappointment and sympathise....and hopefully he will see that it’s not fair to take out that disappointment on you.

0h @NataliaOsipova I've tried to have that conversation believe me. I haven't seen any of my siblings in 10 months and as I work from home I've seen very few people. This is very hard for me as I'm an extrovert. My dc have also had a very hard time with unemployment etc. but no one has it harder than dh & his dc in his eyes. I get it, he's a nrp but I think I've just finally run out of patience with him.
Thanks for your response.

However disappointed he was he has no right at all to behave towards you like that.

What’s your relationship normally like? Is he prone to snapping and stropping?

It’s all utter shit at the moment. I don’t know a single person who had the Christmas they wanted. The way to get through it is to pull together, not lash out.

Try to take some time to yourself and do something you enjoy to calm down and when you feel the time is right, tell him how you feel about his attitude.
Does he normally care about your feelings and your relationship?

no one has it harder than dh & his dc in his eyes.

That does sound exhausting.....

OP I had a thread on here a couple of days before Christmas because I had to have a covid test and if it had been positive then we wouldn’t have been able to see my SCs as planned.
I suspect had I had a positive test result and the plans cancelled then my DP would have been resentful and (not so) secretly seething about it.
Turns out I just had an awful chest infection but I still feel he was annoyed at me for being poorly and putting a dampener on his kids’ Christmas.

Do you feel your DP is sort of blaming your DD for him not seeing his kids? Not that she has any control over the situation and it completely blameless... but I felt like my DP was irritated and angry with me for daring to be ill in the middle of a pandemic!

It really shocked me because he is the kindest, most caring man usually. But he was an utter cunt whilst I was ill.

He needs to grow up.
We're living in a pandemic people are bound to get it.
I have it and my poor dd hasn't been able to see her family but she hasn't blamed me once. And that's a self centred 16 year old.
I'd be rethinking why I married him.

I’ve spent Christmas with a moping misery too. It’s changed how I feel, I’ve really lost respect for him.

Bloody men