Travelling from tier 3 to tier 4

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Due to have SD, collecting her on Boxing Day from a tier 4 area 150 miles from our house. We will be tier 3 previously tier 2. What are peoples thoughts on whether this should go ahead please?

It's allowed. So now you need to consider your own risk. I do believe that, as much as possible, children shouldn't miss out on contact because of this as it could go on for a long time. They've missed out on a lot already.

It should go ahead. It's important for your SD to socialise, see her parents and other family as relevant, and be able to relax a bit from school. The 150 miles is a red herring - you can live a couple of miles down the road from an area with a vastly different risk profile, and the rules wouldn't differentiate. Besides this, this kind of situation is allowed in the rules.

Thanks for clarifying. Will speak with DH tonight about this. It doesn't sit right with me to put us all at risk but will see what his opinion is

We are in the same situation, we live in tier 2, dsd will now be in tier 4! I am assuming contact will be going ahead.

No reason it shouldn’t go ahead. Tier 4 isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, it’s lockdown by another name. So unless you plan to stop seeing her until they roll back the restrictions, or her mum’s areas goes into tier 4 as well, Christmas is irrelevant. At least she won’t have been to school for a week.

Totally understand how you feel and why. But I think we will all be heading into Tier 4 very soon.

Unrelated, the 150 mile journey is nuts. Do you do 300 miles in a day for pick up and drop off?!

@MeridianB yes my husband does I'm super paranoid and to top it off her area was named as the hotspot in the county for the new strain

I'll be driving 150 miles from a Tier 3 to a Tier 2 area to collect my daughter on Boxing Day from her dad's. It's permitted within the rules for children to move between homes.

Was she staying with you when there was the first lockdown ?

Wow. Presumably you guys moved if you do all the travelling? That’s massive!

No she didn't come in the first lockdown not because of risk but more due to circumstances. Will discuss tonight and see what we all think

It's allowed and it's allowed for a reason, parents should see their children.

I totally appreciate that this sort of contact is legally allowed, but from an infection spreading point of view, it horrifies me.

Yes it should, the children shouldn’t be punished by not seeing both parents because they don’t live together. We are tier 2 and DSS are tier 4 and 130 miles from us, there was no question the Christmas arrangements wouldn’t go ahead.

Of course contact should take place unless the person is extremely vunerable. Having said that my ex is classed as vunerable but he would never go without seeing his son.

@Coffeepot72

I totally appreciate that this sort of contact is legally allowed, but from an infection spreading point of view, it horrifies me.

Yes, my DSC are our biggest covid risk as they’re at school and we and DD are at home, but what can you do? You can’t have children banned from seeing one of their parents for months on end.

Just a point to note which we found out recently, for kids 18 and over it's not legal for them to move between households if their parents are not together. Don't know if it's relevant in this case but I don't think this is very well known.

@chocolatesaltyxmaspudballs

Just a point to note which we found out recently, for kids 18 and over it's not legal for them to move between households if their parents are not together. Don't know if it's relevant in this case but I don't think this is very well known.

I thought this was coming sense, myself. They're adults, so of course it's not allowed. The rules apply to children.

Agree it's common sense. I just don't think it's obvious when said 'children/young adults' haven't yet moved out to live on their own.

Against my better judgement we're having my 19 yo stepson over on boxing day for a few nights. But my husband hasn't seen him in months.