I just can’t click with her.

[Lifesforloving1]

I’m finding this really hard to write as I don’t want to be “mean” about my partners daughter.
My partner having a daughter was never an issue, I really try with her , and treat her as my own when she comes round at weekends but I’m finding her really bloody irritating ! She’s constantly wanting attention weather it be good or bad. She’s lieing, pulling faces behind my partners back , lieing about me to him. Really babyish talking to try and look “cute” . My partner knows full well that she lies. And the school also are fully aware. It’s getting to the point now I feel like I’m walking on eggshells with everyone. I’m just stressed every weekend . Any help please ? X

I have found my DSS2 really irritating at times. I actually went through a period of avoiding him and going to my mums with my DS. However it doesn’t help, if you let the rot continue to grow and dread the weekends it will get worse. If it’s bad behaviour then your DP does need to get on top of it. We always find that DSS behaviour is far worse when he comes from his mothers vs when he’s been with us for a while. Sounds like her be about is very attention seeking which again might be due to her circumstances at home. Make it clear to her what behaviour you both expect at your house and be firm with it from the minute she arrives. Try and start each weekend fresh and carry no baggage from the last into it is one of the best tips I can give.