Ex putting words in child's mouth!

[cherry101]

DP split with his dd mother two years ago I am the first partner who had been introduced to his dd. She hasn't had or has a partner currently. I have one child from previous relationship. Our kids get along v well and his dd had stayed twice at my house and on his weekends we see them for a few hours, twice now she has commented and said how his dd has told her mother how she wants to only spend the weekend with her dad only and why does her dad get to spend more time with my child than her ? She had also expressed to my dp that she doesn't like their dd staying over my house either! she has just turned 3!And
she doesn't form proper sentences yet. I've ignored it up until now but I feel sorry for my dp as he's such a great dad xx

Try and be a supportive ear to your DP. Its hard to ever work out the full story. His DD may have said something which has been misinterpreted or taken out of context. His ex may be feeling jealous or threatened by a new female in her DD/exs life. It is still early days for the introduction of his DD to you and your DC. Just keep taking it slow, remaining calm and polite and giving your ex the space to offload and for you to be able to do the same in return!

Support your partner and give space if thats what he wants however neither a 3 year old or an ex dictate your relationship. If you both want to do occasional sleepovers at your house then that's how it is. I know that sounds harsh but if it is the ex putting words in the childs mouth then taking the choice away from the child means she isn't put in the middle or has to chose to upset a parents
by saying she doesn't wants/doesnt want to go. Don't rush things, just explain that most weekends will be at dad's but some weekends will be at cherry's. If she's feeling jealous then he just needs to keep reassuring her thats she's his daughter and he loves her.