We should be in 14 day isolation

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But tomorrow my husband is travelling 80 minutes to pick up his daughter for 10 days! My husband has symptoms but is still planning to have his daughter for his holiday contact time. Nothing I can do about this is there?

Tell him to stay there for two weeks.

Unbelievably selfish - why would he risk his DD and her household and school getting it?

Considering reporting but that would be catastrophic for our marriage. It's totally irresponsible

Does her mom know he has symptoms 🤔

Who would want to rink their child getting corona virus? Everyone else is trying to prevent their family from getting it!

I'd be telling the girls mother - pretty sure she wouldn't want to have to isolate with a sick child on her return. Unless she's also the sort to ignore the rules.....

She definitely will also ignore rules as she did all of lockdown, she is aware but said she needs the break so she's happy for her to come. I know realistically nothing I can do. Just venting really

Considering reporting but that would be catastrophic for our marriage

And him going ahead with his awful plan wouldn't? How can you respect him after this?

Can he not get a test and then delay for a few days until he gets a result?

@Shakirasma you are 100% right. I don't know what to do

Test was done yesterday. He has said regardless of results he will be going. We are fairly sure he has it as we were in close contact with someone who has now had a positive test

I’d assume that being with a man who is deliberately giving his child Coronavirus is also going to be catastrophic for your marriage - most people would find that level of selfish fuckwittery hard to get past surely? Therefore reporting is the only solution imo, although to whom (the police? Not sure if it’s in their powers to do anything about it?). If she does get symptoms when she gets it you’ll also both have to deal with that whilst you are both ill too presumably. What a bellend.

That would be the end of my marriage. I couldn't be with somebody who is deliberately spreading a virus that is fatal to some people.

What an idiot. Never mind the fact he shouldn't be having her at all, as soon as she gets in that car, she's a close contact and should be isolating for 14 days. What's he going to do with her after 10 days? Send her back to her mum and then back to school?

I'm assuming from what you've written that you don't have symptoms? If she comes and develops symptoms, you'll need to start your 14 days again?

I don't have symptoms. I feel really worried about this

If both you and your husband were exposed to the same person ,both of you should have been tested. You may be an asymptomatic carrier.

If both parents agree to this risky transfer , there is nothing that you can do. At this point, it seems that all of the risk is to the child.
The child may end up sick and isolating with you and your husband.

Your husband is free to take risk for himself , but it is unfortunate that he is willing to put others at risk. He could be exposing anyone that he encounters along his journey including serving station attendants, fast food workers, convenience store attendants, etc.

OP isn't supposed to get tested unless she has symptoms

@Tiredoftattler

If both you and your husband were exposed to the same person ,both of you should have been tested. You may be an asymptomatic carrier.

If both parents agree to this risky transfer , there is nothing that you can do. At this point, it seems that all of the risk is to the child.
The child may end up sick and isolating with you and your husband.

Your husband is free to take risk for himself , but it is unfortunate that he is willing to put others at risk. He could be exposing anyone that he encounters along his journey including serving station attendants, fast food workers, convenience store attendants, etc.

She is not supposed to be get tested if she doesn't have symptoms. Don't just make up your own rules and quote them as fact.

OP for me this would be the end of my marriage because it would tell me that I'd married someone fucking stupid and lacking in morals.

If they are absolutely insistent that he needs to have his daughter is there any way she could be dropped off at your house so he doesn't go out himself and spread his probable coronavirus?

I would consider her a part of the household. But I would not let him go get her. And if his test is positive then she would have to isolate with you for 14 days. Not much fun for a kid.

Wow. I can’t imagine purposely putting my child at risk. As well as everyone else he will encounter on the way. Is he driving or going by public transport. He’s crazy. How’s he going to feel if she gets it really badly. Wow.

To Bethany 39:
Where I live, if you have been exposed for longer than 15 minutes to someone who has tested positive for Covid, you are encouraged to get tested because you can be an asymptomatic and still have Covid. It is the same reason that teachers and college students were required to have a test before being allowed to return to campuses and classrooms. It had nothing to do with their being symptomatic but out of an awareness that they unknowingly could be asymptomatic carriers .
Why the hostility about so simple a matter?

If both you and your husband were exposed to the same person ,both of you should have been tested. You may be an asymptomatic carrier.

This is not correct in England.

Only people who show the main 3 symptoms are eligible for testing.

I tested positive last week.
Dh and Dd have no symptoms.
They are not eligible for testing.
Regardless they have to isolate for 14 days. Even if they were tested and it was negative they would still have to SI for the safe time period.

To Argog:
Where I am living, there are health departments, pharmacies, clinics, etc that do free testing on a daily or rota basis. There is no requirement that a person be symptomatic to get tested, and anyone who has been exposed is encouraged to get tested.

The recognition is that many people with the virus can remain symptom free and yet continue to spread the disease.

I guess some practices are regional and perhaps that is why some regions are doing better in controlling the spread.

@Tiredoftattler the advice in the UK is different. We are only supposed to get a test if we show 3 particular symptoms. The testing and tracing system is a disaster

Do you have other children at home, OP?

Is your husband this stupid about other things?