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Covid Vent

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DifferentUserName12 · 05/10/2020 13:04

I have NC for this as DSDs mum uses the site and I don't want her to recognise herself and find my other posts.

DSD came over at the weekend was coughing her head off! DSC's mum says it is just a cold but I am not sure how she can possibly know. She is off school today but her sibling has gone in, potentially spreading covid to her school year.

DSD's mum is adamant that DSD will not have a test which now means DP & I have to isolate for 2 bloody weeks rather than just until she gets the result (assuming it is negative), despite the fact that DSCs and their mum aren't! We have hardly any food in so we will need to get takeaways til we can get a delivery slot which will cost us a fortune. I will also have to avoid the gum for two weeks which I was just getting into a rhythm with after lockdown. Luckily I am able to work from home. I did keep my distance from her as much as possible but I think not self-isolating would be irresponsible.

DSD should not have moved between houses with her symptoms. DP tried to keep her here to avoid more movement but she wanted to go home as she felt rough and her mum insisted that she just had a cold so she went in end. We have since found out that her mum took her to a restaurant for dinner that evening.

I wouldn't mind if she had started coughing while she was here or even if she was getting a test so we know for sure. I just feel totally powerless and that DP and I are the only ones acting responsibly!

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FoxtrotOscarPoppet · 05/10/2020 13:44

Completely understand where you’re coming from OP.

It’s a big worry anyway during COVID with the back and forth between two homes.

DH’s ex is an NHS nurse and has shown total disregard for social distancing, rule of 6, etc and this has rubbed off onto both SC who have adopted the “it won’t affect me” attitude. I’m currently pregnant with my second child and it worries me every time they come as they make no secret of the fact that they think social distancing, etc is all a big joke and pay no attention to it.

His ex kicked right off when my DD recently showed symptoms and we had to self isolate til we got the test results backs. Her issue was that she had plans for the weekend and expected DH to take both SC regardless. Like you we were trying to be responsible but she completely threw her teddy out of the pram.

I don’t have an answer I’m afraid but thought I’d join in with your rant and the impact that the behaviour of others has on us all whilst we’re trying to be responsible.

DifferentUserName12 · 05/10/2020 13:50

Luckily I am not vulnerable so not concerned if I get it but I don't want to spread it to vulnerable people.

I would not want to prevent them coming here if they didn't have symptoms but this could all be avoided if she had just stayed at home ordered a test. Chances are it's a cold and we would have made up the time as soon as we had a negative result. I can't have a test myself as I don't have symptoms so I just have to wait!

It just seems like common sense to keep a coughing child indoors and get a test at moment.

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CatEatCatWorld · 01/11/2020 09:11

I'm having the same problem at the minute. Dps-Ex sent sdd coughing, shes been up all night. As you say I'm not bothered about me/my kids getting it, however we all have to go to school/work as normal, as does other sdd (different mother) so if it is covid we could be spreading it about in lots of different places, including my elderly nan who I look after. We cant afford to isolate for 2 weeks on the off chance it is. I just find it really inconsiderate. Especially as she shares a bedroom with 2 kids here, so coughing would've kept them up all night (they ended up sleeping in the living room.) And the fact when a kid is ill they just want their mum Sad

TW2013 · 01/11/2020 09:16

Can't your dp just book a test for her? CatEatCatWorld then at least you all know.

CatEatCatWorld · 01/11/2020 09:41

She's going home in the next 30 mins so wouldnt have time, plus I think her mum would be weird about it, otherwise she would have had her tested herself?

PityPooty · 01/11/2020 10:11

Can your DH not get her a test himself? He doesn't need mum's permission if he thinks she needs one?

CatEatCatWorld · 01/11/2020 20:37

If we had her longer possibly, but she came Saturday lunch time "full of cold" by the time we realised, actually it's just a cough (and not a cold) it was too late to book one then she went home at 10am sunday.

Will just have to do our best to practise good hygiene and isolate/get tested at the 1st sign of any symptoms. Of course it might just have been a cold and I'm worrying for nothing. (Hopefully)

DifferentUserName12 · 01/11/2020 21:09

Dp did order one but unfortunately DP's ex told her not to take it. Dp wasn't going to hold his 13 year old down force her so it was wasted.

About a week later someone tested positive at the school and dsd's mum hit the roof...

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