My husband was called into work early this morning on an emergency. We had my step children here and their mum was picking them up mid-day so I said no problem, they can just stay with me until their mum comes.
Anyway, the children always get up quite early to watch cartoons/play games in the living room at the weekend before me and their dad get up, say around 7:30am and we tend to get up about 9:30.
This morning I came downstairs and there were no children... I was panicking obviously wondering where the hell they were and was ringing DH. DH also had no clue.
Eventually DH manages to get hold of his ex, it turns out she thought she'd stop by for them early as she was driving past this way and so came and collected them at about 8:30 but didn't bother sharing this information with us. Our front door opens into the living room (can't be opened from outside but can be from inside so kids obviously saw it was mum at the door and let her in).
AIBU to think this is not okay? If you do this, you make sure the other parent knows about it surely? Even if it's after you've picked them up you'd send a text saying 'btw I've got the kids'. Surely if an adult isn't up in the house you don't just take the children and not say anything?!
AIBU to tell DH that I want him to message and say not to do that again and to let us know in future if she stops by early. She also refuses to have my number, it's not necessary apparently which is fine. She's also kicked off in the past when I've looked after them alone for short periods of time (not that often but occasionally I've done so in the past) so it makes me wonder if it was deliberate (she knew it was me and not DH in the house), although she has asked me in the past when she's wanted to go out with friends and DH hasn't been available, not on his days. Funnily it's not a problem when she wants a favour. Tbh I feel like saying now that I won't look after them on my own again when she's due to collect them from me as we have no way of contacting each other about changes like this and DH isn't always immediately available when he's at work and if that means either she or DH has to change their plans then whatever.