Meeting for the first time

[NewYearHere20]

Hi All, I'm looking for some advice around meeting my BF's kids for the first time - and him meeting mine. We have been dating around 8 months and things are going very well so we've both decided its time to all meet up. I would like things to be quite relaxed for the kids so we have organised an activity day out for us all. The children are the same ages.
I'm bound to be very nervous on the day - and I don't want my nerves to filter over to the kids if I can help it as I want them all to have fun - and hopefully get on with each other.
My kids have known I've been dating for a while now so its not like they've only just heard about him.
Any gems of advice would be helpful. :)

Everyone meeting each other at the same time feels full on. If one child takes against one of the others it will make it awkward all round. Would it be worth the children meeting the parent's boyfriend/girlfriend separately first? And once that's been established and assuming it all goes fine then all the children meeting as a next step.

i think what you have planned is ideal. No pressure to play together let them cling to you if they want and be guided by what they want to do.

There is no right or wrong but no pressure lets have a nice day and a bit of MCds and chocolate for all will undoubtedly help

@NewYearHere20

Hi All, I'm looking for some advice around meeting my BF's kids for the first time - and him meeting mine. We have been dating around 8 months and things are going very well so we've both decided its time to all meet up. I would like things to be quite relaxed for the kids so we have organised an activity day out for us all. The children are the same ages. I'm bound to be very nervous on the day - and I don't want my nerves to filter over to the kids if I can help it as I want them all to have fun - and hopefully get on with each other. My kids have known I've been dating for a while now so its not like they've only just heard about him. Any gems of advice would be helpful. :)

Is this the first blended meeting of you and oh plus yours and his children? Or have you met his children before & him yours?

This will be the first time the kids have met any of us. I will add they are all teenagers so I'm not dealing with small children here.

Wow. That's a "big" meetup then if both sets of children are meeting the other adult and their children for the first time, just before school after covid lockdown!
I'll be honest and say, I wouldn't do it that way because of the above.
I'd do a low key meet him first for your children. Then you his. See how that goes. Then the children. Without being dramatic, sometimes meeting the children is the factor that changes the relationship. Why put the children through what could be a fairly full on event, where in theory their potential dislike for one of the children maybe held against their father? Iykwim.
If you are still going to do that, I'd do an activity that you're guaranteed all of you would like/enjoy /participate in.

Thanks for the comments. I will be chatting to BF later about this anyway so we'll have a chat about what we each think our own children will be happy with. I'm really very excited about getting everyone to meet and want to be sure everyone is comfortable.