Babysitter

[mumof2and4]

Interested to know what people opinions of this are: SD staying at ours for a week, we have been invited out by another couple for dinner so we would require getting a babysitter for her and our other 2 kids. Is this ok? Or should we put it off until SD has gone home? My DH said it seems unfair as it's meant to be his time to see her and he will be working all week so only be home in evenings. Thanks

Oh get a baby sitter and out you go. Shes got the rest of the week

How often does she stay at yours?

Half summer holidays, all of half terms

Depends on the regularity I would say. If she came every other week I would say treat it like normal but it sounds like she doesn't come often so I would probably put it off.

You are about to have her for 3 weeks over the summer. I'm sure one night out for you is ok! Enjoy!

I should have said, it also depends on the nature of the event. A one off, scheduled event (like a party or wedding) I would still go and book a sitter, but if it's just a random meet up that could happen any time, I would suggest a different date.

Thanks that's helpful. It is just a one off that could probably be re arranged

It depends a lot on her age, if she's 2 she'll probably be in bed when you go out, if she's 15 she might want to come with you

Is your husband taking any annual leave to spend with her? How much time he will have for her makes a big difference.

She is 10 and he isn't able to take annual leave so will be home in the evenings around 6pm

I might be wrong but the fact that you are asking does this mean this hasn't happened before? I mean you aren't out living it up every Friday and Saturday.
Honestly it's a dinner go and enjoy yourselves.
You'll be out for an evening, no one will suffer.

ALL children need to learn that sometimes adults go out, and that yes it can be without them.

Go and enjoy yourselves. It's one night & parents going out without kids & getting in sitters is a normal part of family life.
All that being said if you're husband is going to go out & be miserable tell him to stay at home & go out yourself.

Go and enjoy yourselves!!
Tbh it'll probably do all the kids good to have a night without you! If they don't get much time together it'll be fun for them to maybe have a fun night in. Why not get them a craft they can do together or a new movie with some sweets and pop corn. Let them bring their bedding downstairs and have a sleepover in the living room! That way everyone gets to do something fun and they won't feel like you've just gone out and left them and you won't feel as guilty.

Go out, we have my steps kids Monday for a week and my birthday falls in the middle of that so we are out 2 nights and family is watching the kids. As long as it's not all the time then go and enjoy yourself :)

Do you only have her in the holidays? And he's only seeing her in the evenings? I'd reschedule if that's the case, or you go and leave him at home.