So we have been having DSD every other weekend and a couple of times in the week now for tea all going well DSD is sweet and I get on ok with her. It’s been a work in progress because of her mum being manipulative and telling her I’m a evil step mother. My frustration is she has sent DSD to us in snow boots yep snow boots in the middle of summer. So in the week her dad took her to get new trainers and sandals. DSD has just come for the afternoon turned up back in snow boots when asked where her trainers or sandals are she replied mummy doesn’t like them so put in the bin. The shoes where what DSD chose nothing to fancy white and pink trainers and pink Sandals with a butterfly on. I’m so frustrated with the waste of money and poor DSD. Her mum has just said next time give her the money which we did at Easter time but no new shoes have been apparent. Sorry for venting DH answer is what can I do I’ll give her the money. He’s just ordered DSD some new ones and I’ve said they stay here he said I’m being unreasonable.