Hi all,
Really hoping for some advice, so me and my other half have been living together for nearly a year. We have 4 kids between. His live with us full time SD 17 and SS 14. My 2 are 10 and 7, they have regular contact with dad, but Step kids don’t see their and their is a court order in place that they live with dad.
So everything was all good when we moved in but it’s getting worse and worse with SS, his attitude, laziness etc etc.
He won’t eat anything but chicken nuggets, plain pizza, ham but only in a wrap and mashed potatoes, if you try and give him anything else, he’ll storm off saying it looks “Mank” and not eat it. So mealtimes can be quite a Challenge especially since recently my 7 year old is now refusing to eat his dinner as he sees SS not eating his. My other half doesn’t eat any fruit or veg so that don’t help, I always buy fruit and veg and if the kids moan they are hungry then I tell them to eat the fruit.
He’s also quite greedy (if I can call it that) we have a snack box and I’ve always been quite clear that everyone needs to be considerate as there is 6 people in the house now, he’ll eat most of it within a day if I put stuff in there. (I find the wrappers in his room) I’ll ask him about it and he’ll deny it, I’ve since stopped buying for the snack box (chocolate and bits) so I’ve solved that problem and if we get kids treats we buy them individually for them now.
The crisps as well, he’ll eat easily 5-10 packets a day! I’ve even tried hiding some in the garage! He has no consideration for anyone in the house at all. If he makes a cup of tea, I’ll ask him to make me and his dad one, he doesn’t as he’ll either say no or say he didn’t hear me.
He’s constantly on his Xbox, and since lockdown it’s been horrendous asking him to do school work or even go for walk, he won’t leave his Xbox.
His language and attitude is awful and it’s rubbing off onto my 7 year old. My other half definitely over compensates for the fact that mum isn’t on the scene and a lot of the time will say nothing and leave things.
I get the kids to clear table after dinner and load and unload dishwasher, just little chores to help around the house. The meltdowns he has when asked too is getting too much. He’s spent a lot with his grandad who is very much, the wife stays at home to clean and cook and the man go out to work, SS did the washing up one because I asked him too, 10 mins later I get a phone call off grandad saying some awful things about me and my kids because SS washed up and it wasn’t his job to do. But yet I’m the one with 2 jobs as my other half can’t work at the min due to health reasons.
He’ll leave rubbish and cups in his room for weeks, won’t wear anything but branded clothes ( I brought him some primark bits and they are still in his draw with the labels on) was his all his clothes aren’t Nike or river island then he won’t wear it. I try and talk to my other half about it and he’ll have a word with him but within a couple of days it’s back to normal. I’m not sure what I can do, but this is having a massive effect on my 7 year old as he sees him getting away with it so he can as well. I’ve spoke my son and told him just because step son doesn’t mean he can. I just don’t know what else I can do x