Are we ok to have DSD this week?

[Eskdale2004]

We haven’t seen DSD (10) since lockdown began. It has taken a huge toll on us as a family. Especially with DD and DH.

DSD has asthma, OH has asthma and I have hypertension and am newly pregnant.

I was really hoping that there would be a little more clarity from Boris on Sunday evening. I’m all for saying to hell with it, let’s have her but my DH is wary (her mum is a nurse)

Despite this I still think the risk is minimal. This is the longest by far we’ve ever gone without seeing her. I think the longest was 2 weeks.

We’ve also got a little girl who is nearly one and I’m scared that she’ll have forgotten her during this time.

In your opinions, would we be ok to resume contact?

Personally given the various vulnerabilities I would hold off at this point and wait for the infection levels to be lower.

I'd say no. DSS has asthma and we've not even so much as hugged him or not spoken to him through a window since this began. Ultimately it's safer for him and he's assuming he's still counting down to July at the moment before he's allowed sour and to ours for the weekend

I think this has been allowed from the start hasn't it? I could be wrong but I thought children from separated families were allowed to go from one parent to another.

This has been allowed from the start

I can see that you have extra conditions to consider

I would do it if her mum is ok with it.

What Boris/any government/Joe Bloggs/random MN poster says doesn't make it any more or less safe.

As it is allowed you (all of you) do a risk assessment and make a decision. Personally, I would want her to come.

Her mum has no qualms about her coming it’s mainly DH.

DSD lives 70 miles away but both families live quite rurally.
I’ve also said that when DSD comes here, she stays for a minimum of 3 weeks and vice versa at her mum’s house.

I can understand the concern with her mum being a nurse and the increased risk that poses. Still, if she has shown no symptoms then I agree with you that the risk is worth taking.

3 weeks is sensible as well, gives you time to really bond again but also in terms of any symptoms showing. But it's a decision only you and your DH can make.

My husband is shielding and we haven't had his kids over since the start of lockdown. His son is also shielding. His boys will stay at their mum's til the shielding period is over. Similarly my daughter is with us full time and hasn't seen her dad either. It's no safer now to travel between households than it was 7 weeks ago, though it's technically 'allowed.'

No, I definitely wouldn’t.
My DH works for the NHS on the front line and hasn’t seen his kids since lockdown started, since he works in close contact with people who are at high risk of having CV.
Not a chance that they’d be put at risk.

I know that quite a few women on the front line sent their children to their Dad's for their safety.

I'm assuming that you're going to pick her up by car? You could have had her round since lockdown but I think you're taking good precautions like infrequent handovers. I can't comment on whether 3 weeks was the right length of time as that's child dependent but hope you have a good time when she sees you

Personally I'd say yes, but it's up to you and DH to make the call.

Not trying to make a decision for you but the balance is weighted against this.

She’s not round the corner. She has to travel 140 miles and whoever drives her has to travel 280 miles. That’s a risk right now.

Her mum is a nurse, so she is exposed to more than most.

She and DH have asthma. This alone makes it risky.

It would be FaceTime for right now.