AIBU? She's always late!

[Bbutter]

It's not the end of the world in the grand scheme of things I know but it really annoys me.

Basically DHs ex is ALWAYS late for pick up / drop off. Not just a few minutes, it can be 45- an hour and a half and she won't say anything or let us know. She'll just turn up whenever.

It's been the same with drop offs a few times. We've got there the time she's said and she's not in and will be out with the dog or at the shops or just given the kids tea so we have to wait outside whilst they eat.

It's just another thing in a long line of things that makes it seem like our time is completely unimportant/doesn't matter.

We have the children 3 nights one week, 4 the next.

DH and I had this with his ex. We both had to go as we worked together and home was 40 mins in the opposite direction. She doesn't drive.

We were banned from going to the house and even into the road, so we parked in the local car park.

Week after week for months we texted to say we were there and we were kept waiting sometimes for an hour.

Eventually we decided to text when we were 10 minutes away. We were still kept waiting.
Finally one week we said we will text as usual and say that we are only prepared to wait until 7pm. So she pulled the same trick again. We saw her and the kids in the rear view mirror as we drove away. We were subjected to a whole weekend of abuse by phone and text. She couldn't go to work.

The following weekend we did the same- and she was late again, so we drove off again.

The following weekend- same thing.

The following week l, she was early and she was never late again. The kids said she had got a formal warning at work. It was shit for the kids and not much fun for us as the whole trip was also 3 hours on a Friday night each week to end up not seeing them but she was at home all day, knew what time we were coming and was doing it to be a bitch. It backfired, and she messed up too often. We just overcame each and every little power game.