Not seeing my step children - my husband is in a predicament

[lorza03]

Ok so I am going to te my best to keep it short.
I am a step mum to 2 children aged 11 & 9 . We have
Always seen them every weekend , then 2 weeks before the lock down
My husbands ex wife decided we had and unstable marriage ( we have been married 2 years and together for 5) and that my husband was not
A good enough farther in her words and that her partner was a better Father figure) and we can not see them.
Since then she has tried to contact one of our friends , she has a page on fb so she must have got the number from there, saying to our friend , she is not aware of what she has done wrong . Can someone please help her.
We have always had issues every single weekend from one thing to another

• we have always stayed composed and calm in these situations but noting has ever changed

. I feel the children have no balance between homes and my husband just feels Lilke giving up , it’s making he very depressed. We just wanted to add a post to see if anyone had any good experiences with legal ways on how to have a way of setting in stone seeing the child ten for example we feel it would be nice to have them- pick up from school Friday( leaves room to take them to an activity - me one child and my husband another maybe , them have until Sunday every other Weeknd , this way we get a Saturday every other week where we can do somthing for ourselves to as I said before we have them Every single Weeknd. Thanks all hope for some informative feed back

Take it to court, I think that's the only thing anyone can advise you.

What reasons has she given for thinking your partner isn't a good father?

Tbh it's not great for the ex only getting the grunt work whilst your dh gets all the fun stuff (ie every weekend) is he a Disney dad?
I can only repeat what the pp said and take it to court (well your dh not you obviously). Most likely get every other weekend and 1 night mid week. It will take time and effort on your dh part.

Your post is a little difficult to understand. You want to reduce contact with the children? And you want to start picking one of the children up from school? Their mum took offence to this and called your partner a bad father?

How did you approach this? It is a big change to what they are used to.

Gosh- where to start?!

In a nutshell : The children's mother is not in a position to dictate whether their father can see them or not. He has an absolute right to see them. Your marriage is none of her business (with the obvious exception if she has a genuine concern for the children's safety).

Her actions do not paint her in a favourable light as far as a family court is concerned. I'd suggest your DH gets some legal advice, so he can feel better informed which should help him be able to stand up for his rights as a father. Often, this is all that is needed when one party is bullying the other into submitting to their demands.

Dad needs to go to court....end of.

I don't understand your post. Are you wanting to cut down contact to every other weekend from every weekend? Or are you not being allowed to see them at all?

lorza03 has your husband spoken to a solicitor? If not, why?

Not sure you would have to go to court to reduce contact.

You want to reduce contact?

You don't need court for that. But why does the mum have to do all the hard work? Why cant your DH do more parenting?

ok mixed bag of comments, I think I may have not been so clear from my post above.
we seen the children every weekend thye come Saturday a time of her choosing so usually 4/5pm, they go home Sunday 11am or 1pm, my argument here is that we do not have them for a significant amount of time, my husband simply sees his children he cant not possibly parent his children in such a small window of time, we are dictated to all the time about how we must keep the children according to her rules, my husband and I would prefer to see them for a whole weekend every other weekend so that it fair on both her and us to have equal time with the children. to see them during the week would also be brilliant.
just as new information 2 weeks before the lockdown we have been unable to see the children as the mum decided we were not capable we have had 1 facetime with the children in all these weeks gone by and my step daughter sent her dad a message on Sunday night saying that mummy left them alone at 11.30 pm at night with no other parent in the home!
we have rang a few solicitors so are on the case we are wanting to proceed to court as this behaviour is unacceptable.

If they were alone in the house and scared and contacted your husband why the hell didn't he go and get them??! He is as responsible as their mother.