Social Media - WWYD?

[Hopingtobeamum]

DSD # 1 aged 13 and DSD # 2 aged 10 are massively into social media, mainly Instagram. DSD#1 (13) set up an Instagram account for my new pet, I wasn't aware but that's fine, thought it was cute to start with. Log in details were shared with us so we could keep an eye on it.
Security settings were set to public, we quickly gained lots of dog related followers (which is fine) but also a small number of grown men and scantily clad women. Some of the bio's on the profiles contained totally inappropriate and sexual language (not to mention some of the pictures, and I'm no prude!)
I reviewed the Insta followers, removed and blocked those that seemed inappropriate and then changed security setting to private, meaning all followers had to be approved. This was changed back to public by DSD#1 so, DH and I explained about dangers online, the need to 'vet' followers etc. The security setting was then changed back to private.
Despite taking more time to explain to DSD#1 + 2 (Me, DH and their DM) about why we were so concerned, being aware of who is following you etc, the DSC continued to approve unsavory followers.
I've now changed the log in details of the instagram account (just for my pets one as I feel I have a duty of care). I don't feel the children have the awareness they should have right now of the perils of social media. I've explained this to them and my DH. I just don't want to have the responsibility for the kids being subject to unsavory people online and it falling on me.
I don't get DH and their DM? why does it take their DSM to find this out?
The DSC continue to have their personal Instagram accounts, I know they have similar 'unsavory' followers on these. I've flagged this to DH, who in turn has flagged it to their DM but these still remain.

What else can I do? I feel I've done the right thing and all I can do for now but would you have done differently?

You can't do more, but why is your dh simply telling his ex and not acting himself.
He can block their instagrams (or you can, if he agrees to pretend he did).
They need more internet restrictions, but it needs to come from parents, not you. You have a DH issue (his parenting is dangerous).

DH has spoken to the DSC as has their DM. I've been party to what he's said to kids, and it was well explained but not her convos obviously. The message just isn't getting through to them though, I fear they don't have the maturity yet to understand. Not a criticism of DSC but a concern for them.

There's nothing more u ou u can personally do tbh. You've tried your best..they aren't doing anything about it.

Perhaps they just feel that all kids are mad about SM and don't want to be forceful.

I think social media is so hard to navigate with teenagers, I personally would set rules and if they are broken the phone gets taken off them. Phones are a luxury not a right and social media Apps do need to policed by an adult under a certain age in my opinion.
That being said you have done your best but better to leave it to the parents to deal with. As a step mother I’ve had to step back and let lots of things slide I don’t necessarily agree with.

Thanks. Good advice, much appreciated.

I have a pet IG account for fun. Literally just photos of my dog. And yet I still receive message requests that are nudes/porn bots. These are from accounts that don’t even follow me.

YANBU.