DSC parent changing agreement during lockdown

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Step daughter arrived on Sunday after being away from us for over 14 days. DP and ex agreed for us to do 14 days on, 14 days off. This morning step daughter said she was excited to go back to her own bed for Easter Sunday at her mum's house (she'd spent the 14 days at mums boyfriend's house) - her mum told her she was coming to us for 6 days and then she'd be back with her for 7. We never agreed to 7 days on/off. 7 days was never mentioned.

So because of this, my stepdaughter is going back to her mums for 2 weeks, then back to us, then back to mum. But because I'm having a c section on 27th May, it basically means there'll be about 3.5-4 weeks between when she last comes to us and when we'll see us again.

So my partner and daughter won't see each other for nearly a month, my son won't see his step sister for nearly a month (he cried as he was told she was coming to us for 14 days).

I'm so angry that this has happened. Obviously, I completely get that my step daughter wants to go back to her own bed/house for a few nights....but her mum just completely took it upon herself to tell her that.

Anyone else had this?

How old is the step daughter? Obviously she has made her wishes clear that she wants to go back home so that should be respected but it's really, really not on to change the agreement without consulting you.

However, I don't get why the SD is going back for 14 days? Surely if the agreement is 7 on/ off then you only won't see her for 7 days? That might be easier as it's less time away.

Why won’t she be there when you go in for Csection?

Im confused....shes not coming around the c section (presuming your choice) but you're upset that she has chosen to go back home?

Upside
If this is a 50/50 arrangement (as it sounds like to me) you cannot call going to her mum’s home as if her dad’s house is not home.

Presumably Chandler, the children will be at their other parents homes so OP and her partner can be at the hospital together and possibly have time to recoup post c section.