Help guys - I'm at risk of turning into the evil stepmother....
Before lockdown was introduced, we sat down with the kid's mum and we decided how to work through the lockdown. The kids are 9 and 13, and the 13 year old has mild autism.
I'm full time working from home, dad is currently between jobs so is able to look after the kids and help with schooling , and the kids mum works in the Post Office however is not a key worker.
The kids mum was adamant that she wanted both kids with her - and to be honest I totally understand that. We talked about how that basically meant that she couldn't work for the duration of the lockdown (no childcare) and that we agreed that it wasnt sensible to be driving back and forth to take the kids for a day here and there. One of the reasons for this is the kids mum doesnt drive, and lives about 40 miles away from us.
She agreed with this position.
Tonight I finished work and dearest hubby announced the kids were coming to stay next weekend because their mum is working.
I'm a little bit lost as how to handle this.
They aren't my kids so I know my view isn't really important. However I feel them mums actions are putting us all at risk. Whilst the government have said kids are allowed to move during lockdown (its one of their reasonable excuses); its not exactly round the corner and possibly exposes many people to risk (what if we break down /have an accident etc?)
I dont want to be the evil stepmum and say the kids cant come -I'd love to have them. I just feel like their mum renaged on an agreement we made to keep everyone as safe as possible, and is putting everyone at risk.
Thoughts?