I live with my partner and step kids . Have done for 8 years long story. They have been through a lot - removed from mom years ago, allowed to see her now restrictions lifted etc. I thought they would want to go back her full time but they don’t - they see me as a mom too. I don’t know what to say I love them dearly - but I’m fed up of my partners behaviour sometimes. Tonight and an argument broke out about them going to mom’s for a few days during lock down. Their Dad is against it because they have an older half sister at mom’s doing take away deliveries and he is worried about the amount of social contact she is having. Also he started feeling unwell and is worried about passing something on. As usual instead of a rational conversation he shouts at our eldest and told her she can &@*%€ go to her mom’s but can’t come back till restrictions lift. Now he may indeed be right but a head strong teenager needs careful explanation not shouting and swearing. There’s a reason the restrictions allow under 18s to move between households it is hard on kids. They have a challenging family structure and don’t see mom often I think she is hard to deal with. They love her and spend a little time with her but I think they find it hard to stay for extended periods. Eldest broke down when we left them with her on holiday for a few weeks. I am sick of his unreasonable shouty bossy attitude the last straw was when he said this was his house an he makes the decisions. All I tried to do was break up the argument and suggest dsd speaks to her mom about it too and that he should discuss in the morning when tempers are calm. He yells in my face telling me that I must do as he says. I’m a grown arse woman and I do not have to put up with that. Love just isn’t enough any more -I am worried about causing my step kids more trauma by leaving they’ve been through so much plus we are on lock down what on Earth do I do????