Are visits happening as normal?

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I'm wondering what other households are doing currently around DSC travelling between houses?

DSC come here every weekend, they are 17 and 15 but watching the news this morning it looks like we may move to more France like lockdown measures by Friday.

DH and I have discussed that our worry is thats they may come over, the rules may change and they can't go back. His ex thinks it's all a big fuss over nothing so is saying we should collect as usual and we are trying to get out of having them.

I am WFH for the next few weeks and am not going out due to being in the flu jab category.

Are we in the wrong, it's not like if we diddnt have them we would be out partying all weekend or something! My concerns are then being stuck, and my potential risk of catching it (their school and college are open)

I posted on a previous thread about this. I am in Ireland where schools are closed since last Thursday & restrictions are in place. I told exh that kids will be with me from last Thursday for 14 days & he agrees. He comes to ours & talks to them through a window. The kids are meeting no one & going nowhere bar open spaces for walks for those 14 days so by then I know they will not have been near anyone with it & then they can go to his for 14 days. I am the only one leaving the house (for groceries) & we are sanitising & keeping our distance in the house. None of us are at risk but this virus is very virulent & kids are prime transmitters; even if they have no symptoms they can be carrying it. Exh's dw has elderly parents as does he so this is the safest thing we can do.
People need to stop thinking about themselves in all this & to put slowing the spread of this virus above all else.

This is why it's so important we keep kids to one household.

We are keeping our kids to one household too. Eldest stepson is back from Uni in London and has gone straight to his mum's. Youngest is there from today for however long. She also thinks it's a lot of fuss about nothing but we can't risk them going between houses. Husband is immuno compromised so higher risk. I've also told my daughter she can see her dad tomorrow for the last time in a while and then I will explain to him what we're doing ie that she will stay with me. He's likely to be a dick about it so I'm going to deal with the conversation when she's left his house.

Feels like drastic measures but everyone is having to make some changes and it's not forever.

No OP you are not wrong

I had a long chat with my DP about this last night.
We don’t live together yet but are waiting to complete on a house purchase. He rents currently but spends the majority of his time at my house and only uses his house for when he’s got his kids EOW.

I have 2 DCs too. I’ve said when we go into lockdown (which is inevitable) then he’ll have to decide which home he is going to be in because I’m not going to let him go between his and mine and if he decides to see his kids during lockdown at his house then he’ll need to self isolate for at least a week afterwards.

Said truth is he won’t want to be alone for 2 weeks so he’ll likely choose to miss a weekend with his kids.

I’m also concerned that my SDs mum will not adhere to the rules so even when we do eventually get to see them again then the lockdown period may be void anyway as they could have had visitors or been out and about and we won’t be aware.

Lockdown is going to be a nightmare for the majority of blended families I think

We are supposed to have DSC this weekend. We have them EOW. We started self isolating our house today though as I have some mild symptoms. So, DSC won't be coming this weekend. Not sure what'll happen in the event of an actual lockdown though.

Ss is supposed to be here now but he's at his mums due to a cough. He said he doesn't want to give it to the kids here bless him.
We are self isolating due to partner developing a cough. I don't know how long ss's mum will play ball with this though

I'm keeping my eldest son with me even though he's a pain in the bum. I haven't discussed it with his dad yet but you've reminded me that I should!

We are carrying on as normal at the moment - while everyone is still in work & the schools are still on. If we had a full on lockdown I suppose we would as DS who he wants to be with.

We have this issue upcoming as well - both myself and H are in the flu shot category and are self isolating . H's ex is younger , son is due home from Uni shortly and daughter is a teenager on the loose as it were . We would prefer that the kids stay with her for a while but she is a very bitter woman and she will likely create a real shit storm .

My Dc and I are between my exh house so much that if any symptoms appeared in any of us it would lead to both households self isolating. That’s already been agreed and discussed.

Here schools are still open and as such the arrangements between my exh and I remain the same. In the event of a lockdown, I presume the children will stay with me. (My exh and I are close in distance so they can get back to mine with ease). But I’m remaining open and fluid and will work to the best of the guidelines.

Don’t get me wrong. If my exh wants them for 14 days, he can have them! 😂😂😂. I’ll have some control of Netflix and vino.

It’s business as usual here. My OH only sees his kids EOW.

We plan to carry on as normal while people are still in work and schools etc.

If the government recommends full lockdown we’ll reassess.

I spoke to exP a few days ago and we agreed to keep to the usual pattern of 1 night a week and EOW. However, I said if DS or anyone else at exP's house got sick while he was there, I'd drive over and fetch him, then we'd go into lockdown for 14 days here. I don't want him away from me for 14 days
However, exP was due to have DS tonight but has been coughing today so DS is staying put.

As predicted DSC's mum has not taken the news well, DH is a terrible father, doesn't want to see them, any excuse etc.

Both us and my ex and his ex are self containing so keeping contact as normal
The kids and myself have a cough so we all need to stop in. We told his ex if she was having DSD back she would need to self contain or we would keep DSD here. Luckily she is off now as the kids seem to know that they are trapped and have gotten 10x more annoying! My DC is at her dads tonight and SD is at her mums. I can finally think! Ha

My SC's mum said she dont want to have her DC because of the risk of the virus. Usually she has her child for two nights after nursery, One weekend in each moths and one full day (agreed beforehand). Now the little one has been sent back from nursery because of the cold symptoms. BM rang up my DP and said that he has to come and pick up their child. She can not say home because of this risk of the virus. Her life is too important. (Ours obviously not.) Btw - BM does not work, but me and my DP are the key the workers.
So instead of the unemployed BM, we have to have DSC for 14 days. And when it's safe, she will have her child back for next selfie session. That seems to be the only reason why she agrees to have her own child every now and again.
Did I mentioned that officially she(MB) is the resident parent. (laugh out loud)
I am thinking its best for the child because she don't stay home but actively socializing. Even now when everything is cancelled she still out and about where ever possible. I guess she must have some kind of "maniacal-socializing" syndrome.