A positive post plus a brag

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Please don't flame me.

I become a stepmum at 21 to two boys 3&4 they are now 15 & 16 and are hands down the loveliest kindest most amazing DSS's i could ever possibly wish for.

Sometimes it's not been easy and sometimes I've wondered what my life would of been like child free but honestly hand on my heart i couldn't imagine my life without them.

They are kind and caring and always (even as teens) give me a hug and a kiss say i love you before bed/ school/ college. I have a great friendship with their mum so that has probably always helped them feel at ease.

Yes step parenting isn't for everyone and yes it can be hard but it can also be a complete blessing.

With the way of the world at the moment i just wanted to share some positivity and let other stepmums/dads know life as a step parent can be amazing ❤ admittedly i have been blessed with two exceptional DSS's.

My DH always says how lucky he is that me & the boys get on so well. I always say you get back what you put in. I've always put the effort in with them and have zero regrets.

Step parents are wonderful sometimes loving a child by choice not because you have to

I get on great with DP's kids too.

I think the main reasons are:

DP and his ex co-parent well and neither use contact with the children as a weapon
DP's ex has always been nice to and about me (in front of the kids at least) and we have never said a word against her in front of the kids so we have modelled good relationships
DP's children are lovely as individuals
I don't try to parent the children or control DP and his ex's parenting

@KylieKoKo i think you've hit the nail on the head there. A lot of it has got to do with the other parent. If you have a good relationship with them the DC seem to know they can get on with you too without feeling guilty towards the other parent.

I can't understand why some ex's purposely poison their DC again a step parent when all's it does is cause unhappiness and confusion.

Glad you get on with your stepchildren too

Awww how lovely! A positive thread!

I'm glad for you and your family, and especially for the step kids.

Do you have kids of your own?

@ExServiceWoman thank you

No non of my own i have a heart condition which means i am unable to carry. Suppose in lots of ways that's why i love having my DSS's in my life.

The boys always say if i had my own DC i might not love them so much which of course i would.

It's worked out well all around.

Do you have children or step children?

Yes I do. She stayed with me when I chucked her dad out. I've been lucky with my kids.

@ExServiceWoman she obviously knows where she's better off ❤ good on you