Out of order or normal for age?

[Bringiton2019]

My DSS is 18. He never really bothers with his Dad (my DP). He has his own car so has his independence.

We haven't seen him since Christmas Day (he came over for dinner and presents), although my DP has to ask him to eat his dinner with us.

Anyway he came over at 1130pm last night with his girlfriend, my DP was on nights and I was in with my kids (aged 7 & 8).

They both got up at 1100 and left. Didn't speak, just left.

I think it's unacceptable, and I also worry about what example it's setting to my kids.

I know his lack of contact upsets my DP.

Is this normal for an 18 year old, or taking the p**s? Do I keep my mouth shut?

Absolutely taking the P!!!

I don’t think it’s acceptable:
a) turning up at that time having not checked in advance (and not having been there for a month!)
b) bringing a guest without asking.
c) getting up and leaving without acknowledging you or the children.

Tell your partner if he’s going to take the piss and act like an entitled brat, he needs to message ahead to check whether it’s convenient.
Failing that, double lock the front door or put the chain on when your partner is nights so SS can’t just turn up and get in the house again.

That’s terribly rude behaviour. I would never have behaved like that towards my parents at that age. And shame on his gf for having such bad manners too

Good to know it's not just me.

I don't want to cause an issue but I've asked DP to have a word.

It's definitely rude not to even speak!

I admit I would use my mum's flat as a crash pad if I was out near there when I was that age but I always asked first and would certainly not leave without even saying hello and thanks at the very least!