Non-Reimbursement

[Wallywobbles]

How do others handle this? I have 2 kids and 2 step kids. DSC with us 50/50. We are meant to pay everything for DSC1 and their mum pays for DSC 2.

I organise all the school transport for all the kids, and absolutely every other paperwork that needs doing. DSCs both have a lot of extra paperwork because they get special help at school because of learning issues. In general I'm doing it for mine so I do it for all. We try to treat them all the same.

110€/child for annual school transport. DSCs mum agreed to reimburse me rather than get fined for late application. 6 weeks later and 2 missed deadlines still nothing.

Previously I did all the orders for their school supplies lists and same deal 8 weeks before she paid back her bit. So I only did it the once. She sends them back to school with a piece of paper and a pencil before she pulls her finger out. It's the kids that suffer but I'm fed up of it.

I've ended up contacting her DP because he's the more reliable one.

Keep asking, every couple of days until they pay. When she has, tell her you won't agree to paying for her in the future since she can't be relied to pay back on time.

You seem to do a lot, what does their dad do? How come you paid and not him?

I do it all because she is so spectacularly crap at it all the admin. And the kids don't deserve to suffer.

Everything paperwork wise at school is done online. So she never sees their marks, letters from school notifications etc. Says she doesn't know how to login, but get the same info in an actual letter as everyone else. She never orders school photos either as it's online. Even the kids know how to do it because I walk them through everything and they use the student part of the same software for school.

I work less than DH, but have a good income. He drives all the kids on the 2h/day commute to school and work. He does a massive amount at home and work so I do what I can to lighten the load to make that possible.

This time payment came from the joint account.

She also lies a lot to try and cover up but I now copy DSD or her BF into all admin based communication. And I do it in writing with notifications so I can show that she is lying. The lying does my head in. The poor kids never know whether to believe her or not.