Buying things for DC and DSC

[NightOwl101]

Hi I have a DD and DP has his own DC and we have none together.

I'm just wondering how other families do it if they buy something for their DC do they buy something for DC at the same time because one is getting something so they all should?

Thank you for all the replies. I do think him having guilt does play a part of all this. It's getting a little tiresome having the same "talks" or me feeling bad when I buy my DC something because I know he won't approve of me not buying for his at the same time.

Different family scenario where OH has an 11 year old son from ex and we have two daughters together.
We have his son half the week every week, and currently because he went away for 2 weeks with his mum he’s staying with us for 2 weeks to cancel it out so to speak (his request).
When we bought our house, I was pregnant with dd2, and we specifically bought a house where it accommodated ALL of the children, so OHs son has his own room. He’s got it decorated how he wanted it, he’s got his own tablet, Xbox, TV etc.
The girls currently share a room but we do have a fourth room so if it gets too much one of them can move into it (it is a box room though). They have a TV and Xbox (although it’s seldom used), dd1 has an iPad, and they’ve got an Amazon Echo in their room to listen to chilled music at bedtime.
If I’m food shopping, I obviously have to consider OHs son so buy food accordingly. He loves my shepherds pie so I make one every weekend so he doesn’t miss out on it. He eats the same fruit and veg as us so it’s easy.
He is at the age where he doesn’t play with toys, but he does love reading so he’s got a little book collection which I’ll add to if I see something which I think might take his fancy.
When I buy the girls clothes, I get him clothes too.
After the bills, mine and OHs money is put together and it’s ‘ours’. All I see is that OHs son is part of ‘our’ family, so I treat him as such!

Beaubird83 it's not a case of not treating them as family, very far from it and as I've said if I see things they would like or if they need new clothes and I'm out and see something they like I'll buy it happily. My problem is more the expectation if my I buy for my DC then I must buy for the rest. All DC have their own space, iPads, toys and things they love here which is just how it should be.

If he’s not applying the same logic to his own interactions with his own kids, then he’s being a prat. Seperate finances for seperate families is the best way forward in this scenario as he seems to be expecting you to contribute less towards your own kids to benefit his, which is ridiculous. They’re his kids not yours.