My stepkids and bio kids treated differently by dad

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I'm struggling to understand how and why I'm with my OH as we are arguing daily about how he treats my son and our son, then how he treats his daughters! We argue as he refuses to discipline the girls, over being rude, naughty even to me and if I try to talk to them about naughty behaviour it ends up in him arguing.
He doesn't interact with my son and does the bare minimum with our 1 year old son. But the girls he dotes upon. He tries to buy affection and love from them, yet will leave the boys out and I'm becoming tired of constantly trying to help him and talk to him about the need for a routine and equal treatment of the kids. But he won't hear anything, and I fear we are on the verge of breaking up. I'm so unhappy because it's like I'm loosing my partner and two children. Yet he doesn't care about upsetting the boys 💔 please say this will pass? Or he will acknowledge the need to treat them all equally?

I am so sorry. I have been a step mum. I tried to be the best role model I could be. I know I could have never loved him the way I love my children. However, they are kids and they need to be treated with dignity. The fact that he is not spending time with the child you have together says it all.

He knows you put up with his shit.

Don't. You need to protect them both. Your eldest needs a role model that pays attention to him.
The child you share together deserves equal attention from his father.

Walk away. You are allowing him to make your eldest feel like an outsider.

Anyway, he is not a good father. You can't blame him to treat his step kid differently, BUT at least show him respect and and be caring to some extent. However, you can blame him fully about his little interaction with your baby.

A dad that only take care of some if his kids is a DeadBeat daddy.

Walk away now ur son is little