Just need help. :(

[flossy12]

OH really needs some advice, him and his ex have a DD together who is 5, ex has declined for her to come on holiday abroad with us later in the year but agreed she could come away within the UK

We booked a holiday in the uk which is soon and now EX has turned round and said that We can not take DSD with us, there is no court order in place or anything like that as it hasn't really been needed, OH wants to collect DD from nursery the day of the holiday and take her away as we planned, would anything happen if we were to do this?

Any advice would be appreciated as DSD keeps going on about the holiday and how excited she is etc

We are not going abroad

Like I said before we will be at the sea side it's like an hour away tops, we have had her for a run of days before and always have regular contact have done since we got together

I understand that it could make things harder but we have always gone by what EX has said, she's tried to stop and start contact since they broke up as and when it suits her alaways changing times dates etc to meet her needs and never agrees to changes OH suggests,

She also left DSD for a week with someone and refused to tell us where said it was with her gran but we know that wasn't true, told OH to get police involved at the time but he didn't want to upset DSD and cause trouble with EX etc

she's tried to stop and start contact since they broke up as and when it suits her alaways changing times dates etc to meet her needs and never agrees to changes OH suggests,

Then he should have taken her to court long ago. Now is not the time for him to take matters into his own hands.

OP you had talked about a UK holiday but then in your post last night you were talking about going abroad.

I said she has refused to let us take DSD abroad but said a holiday in the UK was fine and agreed so we booked one now she's saying no x

I think everyone can agree that the ex is being spiteful and it’s DSD who will miss out.

I would see what the solicitor says next week. People on here can say anything with no repercussions/legal background. The solicitor will be best to advice on the right course of action.

You can get this sorted by getting a court order to stipulate an annual holiday, the period of holiday time to be taken, alternating Christmas/birthdays. Clarification on mothers day and fathers day and ideally first option for child care if the Ex goes on holiday.

The ex is being spiteful, but you can get this clarified. One other thing to remember is that the Ex is doing this to hurt your DP, so if he doesn't react to her directly, no begging/imploring or attention of any kind (grey rock), and just hits back with legal action or by enforcing the court order every. single. time.

@flossy12 This is a power trip. The ex tried this last year and actually tried to cancel the two step kids passports unsuccessfully! Just calmly tell her that you and your partner will be going on XXX date and you hope that DD can come but if not, maybe next time.

Don’t give her the drama and let the ex be the one to explain to DD why she isn’t allowed on holiday. It worked for us.