I have friends who are the legal guardians and grandparents of a child (pre-teens).
This kid (lets call him Adam) was born to parents who abused drugs, before conceiving and whilst carrying, and my friends are convinced that whilst still not really diagnosed, the effects of his parents actions, have been passed on.
Cutting to the chase, The boy is displaying all different kinds of bad behaviour:
Stealing: Money, Cigarettes, Games (from the childminder / social services club ) stealing from his GPs bedroom etc.
Being very disruptive at school: with detention almost every single night after school
Posting on Social Media threatening to self harm
Uses disgusting language at his DGPs and uses the C word.
Has called the police for fake incidents
the list can go on,
My friends are really trying so hard and I can see how upsetting this is for them, as Social Services have pretty much given up hope, firstly they were too late in offering their help as they didn't think it was needed, and now they are at a stage where they say, that there is nothing they can do
My friends have been talking about giving him up, and obviously this is not an easy decision to make, and they really do not want to, but no matter how much they try, they do not appear to be able to make him understand.
Adam has been told the possible outcomes of his behaviour and he promises that it will never happen again, but the next day starts as if nothing ever happened.
I really feel for my friends as well as Adam, as when Adam goes to an club 2 evenings during the week, he is as good as gold and you would never have thought this is the person he is when he is at home.
How can you get through to a child that has no fear of consequence,
I might also add here, that he has been arrested and interviewed following some of his actions , but again, acts like nothing has happened and he now has a charge against his name, but I guess at that age, you don't really understand the concept of this.
Any thoughts / offers of guidance that I could possibly share with my friends would be upmost appreciated.
Many thanks
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Summer84 · 18/06/2019 14:44
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