I was wondering how other families handle children's birthdays. I understand that most SMs are not too keen to be found in the same space as the exW and vice versa.
So if a child's birthday is celebrated on a weekend when he/she is not with her father, do you have another, maybe small celebration another weekend? Or does the father go alone?
My DH always goes to see his 2 sons on their actual birth date. They come here EOW. DH is civil with the mother. Myself, I had issues with her, so I'm not feeling comfortable going. I came before, she doesn't really talk to me, the sons are talking to their father (they are teenagers now), so I don't really feel like my presence matters all that much.
Sometimes, my DH would take them out to eat somewhere, so I would come with my 2 children as well. But this year, the birthdays fall on a weekend, so the celebration will happen on the same day. Usually, the mother invites her friends and family, so I really don't feel like it's my place to be there. My DH doesn't have family here, so we can't organise a family thing. It would really be just DH, me and my children if we do another celebration the next weekend. But then maybe one celebration is enough, I don't really know what to do.
I have a good relationship with them, so I would have liked to acknowledge their birthdays.