Stepson gone rogue

[Panky555]

So I'm new to the whole parenting thing, I am 10 years military so I know discipline but obviously discipline kids is slightly different lol.
My girlfriends kid is running a mockery of the house, he's 16, currently going through his gcse's so obviously his mum wants him to concentrate and do well.
He talks to her like shit, he doesn't walk in til around midnight on school nights and I have no idea what to do...
He's going down a bad path of weed and girls that could cause dramas with schooling
When telling him the dangers of society he just shrugs similar to that of Kevin and Perry.
Obviously giving him a clip round the head like I got when growing up is apparently now frowned upon so what else can you do??

When you say 'new to the whole parenting thing', what does that mean?

How long have you been with his mum, and what's happened that puts you in a 'parent' role?

Does he like you? Listen to you? If so it might be a good idea to get him to the gym, boxing or another physical activity you know about. Both my brothers went through this phase and sports / gym / kickboxing etc sorted them out.

... he's not your child nor your responsibility.

How long have you been living with his mum?

Did you appear recently?

Where is his dad?

YOU don't do anything, if you are 'new to parenting'.

The first rule of parenting is as soon as you have a kid rules goes out the window.
The books and discipline don't work on everyone.
At 16 the horse has left the barn.
Your job is to support your partner and keep out of it. Enforcing your idea of how a teenager should behave on a 16 year old will lead to ww3 in that house.
Either keep quiet and support your partner, or if you can't cope with a rude git of teenage leave.

*@RubberTreePlant

YOU don't do anything, if you are 'new to parenting'.*

When can you be considered fully enrolled as a parent?

I have a small baby, I must be new to parenting. Should I place him down and wait for someone more experienced to take over?

OP, I’m a step parent and it’s bloody tough going. Especially with attitudes like that. The most important thing you can do is talk to your partner. Be their support.

I have a small baby, I must be new to parenting. Should I place him down and wait for someone more experienced to take over?

Yes that is obviously exactly my meaning. It's not as though i was responding to a new step parent wanting to discipline somebody else's 16 year old.

Step parents get to be “new parents” too. Getting them involved in the family will make it easier for everyone to adjust.

Step parents get to be “new parents” too. Getting them involved in the family will make it easier for everyone to adjust.

It's a huge mistake for a new step parent to be involved in discipline.

OP can support his partner without dishing out the discipline himself. He might be able to take useful ideas and put them to her...

"OP can support his partner without dishing out the discipline himself. He might be able to take useful ideas and put them to her..."

yes, but we can;t offer suggestions as OP hasn't actually told us any key info. ie, when did he appear in this lad's life. when were parents separated, how did they separate.. how much he has to do with SS. why he thinks its up to him and not mum etc