My DH has known his ex#1 since teenage years, so even after 13 years of separation, they are "like brother and sister". Their sons (16.5 and 19) rarely come to visit, so he goes every week to spend time with them and obviously, if the ex is there, they interact. So, I'm learning that the ex who saw our 20 month old maybe 4-5 times, always asks about him and asks that he brings him. This weekend, the 16 year old SS, who's very close to his mother, came to visit. He played a bit with the toddler, but was mostly on his phone.
On Sun, when my DH brings his children back, he first drops me and my 2 children (only the toddler is his) at my mom's place (35 min away), then continues 20-25 min to his DD's place (daughter from ex#2), then continues 10-15 min to SS's place (ex#1), spends 1-2 hours there, then goes back to my mom's to pick us up, then we all go back to our town.
So, when we arrive to my mom's place, SS starts asking if the toddler can continue with them to his place, so his mom can see him, because she loves him very much. When I refuse and explain why (just the road is way too long, not to mention that he has to eat, have his diapers changed, bathed and be ready to sleep on our way back home, I also bring him to a parc, there's no way my DH who will be concentrated on his older kids will think about all this), SS starts arguing. This happened already twice, he's not getting it. I think that after the whole weekend with him when he didn't take advantage of playing with him, he wants him at his place for 1 hour to please his mother.
How would you handle a very insisting teenager who always thinks that he knows better than me and who obviously loves him mother?
And just to vent: I find it extremely pretentious on the ex's part to just ask to "bring the baby". If she wanted to see him, she could either invite us as a family or come herself, but sitting on her butt in her house and expect that the baby is brought to her on a silver platter?? What is she thinking??