Telling the children about a new partner

[carybaz]

My DD has been separated from her husband for 2 years and the divorce is going through. She's been seeing a wonderful man for six months now: her 9-year-old twins have met him and like him a lot - but when and how does she explain that she and he are more than "just friends"?

Don’t make a big deal of it.

I met my OH’s kids after 7 months (they were 10 & 7 at the time). I was introduced as daddy’s friend at first and we went bowling and I slowly started spending more time with them over the next few month.

Their mother went ballistic. How dare he introduce a women to her children that she didn’t know. They had been separated for 3 years at this point. But that’s another story... the children were very conflicted.

I would mention it to the father so he gets his head round it and doesn’t cause any problems.

The dad does know. And is a bit moany about it.

Agree, do not make a big deal of it. At 9 they might know by now they are a couple, no need to sit them for a formal chat. Just when they ask if they are together, the answer is “oh yes we are” and take it from there.