Fleas

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Issue is still ongoing.

Exwife has admitted recently thst for months they have had an issue.

Issue has resulted in me, df and our dd being bitten, including sc. Quite badly (mainly us and sc not so much dd) .

Every other weekend, come the monday (df works) i am left defleaing.

I love the kids. Iove my partner. Love my baby more than anything. I hate this though.

It is a dp problem as i know he is scared to rock the boat with ew as it always results in drama despite a court order.

But honestly? I signed up for a man with kids. All of which i love. Six months or londer with a flea infestation along with the rest isn't what i envisioned.

I don't want the kids to feel diseased if we (dp) strips, makes them wash and then get into clean clothes while i sort the dirty. But how the hell do qe handle this?

Dp has covered the issue with ew but nothing comss of this. But i hate all the added work defleaing everythinf every other monday. Love the company of the kids. I sit up with them ti comfort them if they want me. But i hate the extra work load that shouldnt exist.

J have pets. I know flea situations may happen. But not for over sox months at a time. To me that is a problem.

Are you certain this is fleas. Fleas can't live on humans, the occasional flea might hitch a ride, but it is not common. Where are you seeing the insects and where are the bites.
Using a good household spray like Indorexx, Stay Kill, Acclaim or RIP Fleas should solve your problem and they continue to work for 12 months.

I agree. An ongoing flea problem like this seems unusual.

Pretty sure, ew has admitted herself to a bad flea problem. Kids are constantly bitten and the bites look like flea bites.

We only get bitten q couple times each time they come.

I did find it strange that fleas done this as well. I assume they may be hitching their ride on the fluffy toys they bring between homes

Do you have any pets yourself?

It’s much easier to treat the house if you treat the pet.

Failing that, you need to go to the vet and buy indorex. You then need to hoover the whole house (as this encourages the eggs to hatch) and then indorex the house

Give it a week and repeat

For such a bad infestation that travels with the children you would be seeing actual fleas jumping on and off them/yourselves.

Have you seen them?

Where about me are the bites. Flea bites are normally below the knee where the fleas jump up and bite out of the carpets.

Oh god. We have a gorgeous cat who kindly gave us a flea infestation, the damned things were everywhere. We front lined the cat (it took a double dose with a ten day break), constant combing of the cat, whole house spray, including carpets, sofas and beds with stay kill plus and steam cleaning everything. I was absolutely mortified when I saw one jumping on my child's jumper. It took about two weeks to clear everything but within days of first spray and front line dose fleas undercontrol. Rspca can help EW if money is an issue. Poor kids, poor you and poor pets. It's really irresponsible of her not to sort this out.

Oh i agree these things can happen. When we got our youngest pet we ended up swarmed in yhe buggers!

I'm not judging her for having fleas, I'm judging her for clearly not doing enough as this has been going on for half a year!

ExW has claimed she sees them, i THINK i have seen some (my eyesight is not the best!) .

I sent her a message saying how we have had them before and if both households can keep each other informed that would be helpful for everyone involved. No reply. Not sure if i have done the right thing, was meant as an olive branch (especially pointing out we have had the same issue years back) . How much added work it is causing etc. I was hoping it would help open communication. Especially as it is an issue affecting both homes now!

I find this aspect of being a step parent so hard. All i want is to not have way more work than needed and for (all children) to be okay. Whicu also includes my baby naturally! She is a very good mum in general. I just wish she would respect that i am just trying to do the best by everyone involved.