Bedroom arrangements now had another child

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So I have a 8 year old stepson, 4 year old daughter and a baby son.
Baby is in with us now but we're trying to decide what to do with the rooms when he isn't. We have a 3 bedroom house. Stepson is in smallest room with cabin bed and daughter is in bigger room (not by much tho)
Anyway our options are-
Put stepson and daughter in together when baby goes into cot until a little older but then who shares?
Do daughter and son share and keep stepson in his own room -or- do the boys share and move daughter to the smaller bedroom.
My concerns are daughter has more stuff than stepson and probably our son when he's older? As stepson doesn't play with 'stuff'
Realistically neither spend any time in their rooms other that for sleeping. Daughter a bit more as she does sometimes play in there. But if she went in the smaller bedroom I don't know where we would put some of her stuff.
What do you guys think?

Does your stepson live with you full time?

I think I'd move DS into DDs room when it comes time as I think the age difference is more important than sex difference.

I'm not sure what the long term solution is though as by the time your DD is 10, SS will be 14 and probably not up for sharing with a 6/7 year old.

Daughter in smallest room (have a cull of her stuff - she will probably have outgrown some of it by the time baby needs to leave your room)

2 boys into the bigger room.

He's with us Friday-Monday.
Yeah my concern was the age gap- cos even with them both being boys, is stepson really going to want to share with a 4 year old when he's 12/13?

You have the same question though if your DD shares with baby. When she is 10 (and probably starting puberty) will she want to share with a 6 year old?

I’d put baby in with DD for now and re-assess when Dc are older. Whatever you do isn’t fixed for ever, and at this stage the age difference is more important than the sex.

We have a 3 bed house and 3 boys (age 5 and nearly 3 year old twins) My stepson is 13 and is with us every other weekend. He sleeps on the bottom bunk in DS1's room - no issues at all. It's comfy and quiet.

He (stepson) used to sleep in the living room on a double (sprung) sofabed but this took out our main reception room and was noisy for him even with the door closed as all his little brothers were tearing around the ground floor. He has his own room at his mum's house so he's pragmatic about sharing a few nights a month.

DS1 knows he has to get up very quietly when he wakes at some ungodly hour, and gently close the bedroom door behind him, so his brother can sleep in until 1100🙄

Hope this is reassuring!

I’d put baby in with DD for now and re-assess when Dc are older. Whatever you do isn’t fixed for ever, and at this stage the age difference is more important than the sex.

I’d do this.

I'd put son in with DS.

22 youngest together

If you had 2 boys of your own and 1 girl what would you do?

Eventually the 2 boys should share the bigger room and the 1 girl should have her own room.

I’d put boys in bigger room and daughter in the smaller room

Put DSS and DS together.

It's unfair to pit DSS and DD in the same room especially with there ages.
More than likely the baby will sleep in your room 6-12 months.

Baby and daughter together in large room until daughter is about 8/9 so baby will then be about 4. This is because they will go to bed around the same time.

Then baby and step-son together in large room.

Your daughter will just have to learn to have less stuff as it isn't fair for her just to be in the larger room.

I find it really interesting to see how others would approach this. I think it always adds a level of complexity when stepchildren are involved as the last thing most of us want is for them to feel pushed out or not part of the family. Have you asked your DSS his view on it? Try to remember that nothing has to be permanent too so what you do when baby does move into a room doesn't necessarily have to be the same a few years after that.

@PoesyCherish
Stepson isn't bothered really- just said he wants the top bunk haha. I think he'd rather not share with either- doesn't want to share with his annoying little sister or a crying baby haha!
I suppose everyone is right whatever we do doesn't have to be permanent.

I'd keep the baby with you as long as possible, until he's not really waking in the night much so probably at least a year. At that stage I'd maybe ask the older two which of their siblings they'd rather share with an and see what looks more promising. My DS and DDS shared happily at first (aged about 12 and 9) but found it harder once DS hit his teens and was smelly and feeling a need for privacy.

I don't think there's an obvious pairing in your situation though. Two youngest sharing leaves an empty room 4 nights a week. Two boys have a big age gap. Any chance of a loft conversion or subdivision of one of the rooms?