I consider myself reasonable, my partner has a son, we have him every other weekend (there's been a
lot of back ground as in he has lived with us for many years for certain reasons, he's now a teenager and doesn't like dads rules so he's been at moms for a few months now.
I have two children whose dad is an absolute no mark (my kids are grown up and know this for themselves now)
So, situation as it is now is that DP sons mum demands money here there and everywhere, DP transfers money, then we find out from Ds that that money has not been spent on what DP was told it was for.
The latest is for a large object, I absolutely agree that just the normal piece of this furniture is suitable as even for an adult it it adequate and my DP is prepared to buy. (Whilst DP son lived with us there was never any monetary contributions from mum, but hey ho that's just the way it went) DP has no objection to contributions, does so even when he knows what's being asked for is above and beyond what the actual cost would be.
So the latest one has pissed him off, I've tried to talk to him, just said ok, so he needs this. Obviously what mum is suggesting is taking the piss so go to Argos, order it, job done.
He's now gone off on one at me, cuz he's pissed off with her. That's so annoyingly when I've done nothing wrong......it is hard for us, we all have different circumstances and we're not all bastards and shouldn't be treated as so.