Step-Granny thoughts please?!

[TheQueensCousin]

DH and I have been together 30odd years. I get on very well with his adult DC, my DSC. We also have adult DC of our own. One of my DSC has recently had a baby, the first in the family believe it or not, and obviously DH is Grandpa and our DC are aunty or uncle. Now he's the thing I haven't been given a change of title/status just thequeenscousin. This is apparently because that's what DSC have always called me.
In my family we've had step grandparents and have always respected them as such in that we call them Granny such and such or Grandpa such and such.
I feel a little hurt but maybe I'm overreacting as I do genuinely get on well with everyone.
I'd love pps thoughts or just to know what happens in your family.
Thank you x

Thank you everyone for giving your time to respond. DH has come up with some sort of solution. He wants to be known as Grandpa Name to DGC and I'll be Queens. This way he thinks that it shows a sense of cohesion as a couple, Grandpa Name and Queens as opposed to Grandpa and Queens. In his mind he didn't like the thought of Grandpa and Granny (DSC's Mum) sounding like an item. I'll continue to go with the flow but I feel as though DH is considering my feelings too in this matter. By the way I showed him the thread and he did feel sad that I had to talk to strangers instead of him. But I told him you weren't REALLY strangers, just friends that I'd never met!

Ah I like his thinking, yes gran and grandpa does sort of ‘couple’ him and ex doesn’t it? I do think you’ve earned granny status though, considering the longevity.

My grown up step children don’t call me any kind of ‘mum’ name, but apparently I am Nanna Jelly to their dog so I guess that’s heading in the right direction!

My children call my stepdad for grandad.. My niece doesn't she calls him by his name.

Both works fine.

my grandchildren call my partner by his name and me nanny so cards and presents are signed nanny my name and just his name as he isnt their grandad hes my partner

My mother wanted my children to call her husband Grandsd. I thought it was massively disrespectful to my lovely Dad. They used his first name.

They could be calling you that because it's a familiar nickname and more unique than another 'granny', also the proof of the pudding is in the eating, the little one will love you regardless of the label you are given. In my family I had 'nanna' and 'grandma', but I also had 'mummy Anna', my mum and 'mummy lucy', who was just my best friend's mum! Just because it made sense to us. I hope you're not too hurt by it :(