What to do ?

[Keira7]

'm a mother of four split from their Dad about 7 years ago currently but bf a year everything is fantastic apart from the fact he wants a child in the future I don't?

So tell him?

Well, tell him you don't want any more children and that he shouldn't expect you to change your mind. That you understand it may be a deal breaker for him and it's up to him whether he wants to continue the relationship despite knowing that you'll never have children together.

I have told him but he thinks it's cos of past experiences and thinks I'll change my mind

It doesn’t really matter what he thinks. You’ve told him. If he continues the relationship then he continues it knowing you don’t want any more children. Keep repeating what you’ve said and make sure you always take your pill.

TBH, 1 year into a relationship is really too soon to be discussing having children anyway. Just tell him you are happy as you are, and having children isn’t on your radar. At least he should then be aware so that he can’t accuse you a few years from now of deceiving him.

My exh wanted children, I told him I didn't and was very firm about it. He pressured me for years and got very abusive when I refused.
You are being honest but he isn't listening and thinking clearly. You need to articulate it very clearly and ask him to be sure. You also need to think if this is what you want.

You could look into getting your tubes tied? That's a surefire way of getting him to acknowledge that you won't be changing your mind in future.

What everyone else said. All you can do is be totally clear. Tell him again that it will never be on your radar and tell him explicitly that you'd understand if he didn't want to carry on the relationship. It will drive you apart, so you might as well give him a clear chance to leave and find someone who has the same future plans.

If he feels so strongly about it, then it's never going to work. Why continue with the relationship when it rests on both of you hoping the other will change their mind?

Tell him straight. I. Never. Want. More. Children. Four. Is. Enough.

If he doesn't understand, you're obviously not on the same page. Move on and find someone who does understand you.