Meeting partners son first time

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Hi

I have been with partner little over 10 months. He has a 8 year old son with previous partner. They’ve been broken up since partners son was 6, and partner hasn’t had relationship since although ex has remarried

His son has known about me for about two months, and has been asking to meet me ever since so we are meeting this Sunday.

I am so nervous, I love my partners son so much already having heard all about him.

We are going bowling and then for food.

I am nervous because I know there is so much riding on him liking me...

Does anyone have any advice at all?
He has told his dad that he can’t wait to meet me because it’s the first time he’s seen his dad laugh, smile and sing. (He’s a very sweet kid)

Please help.. I’m nervous! Haha

Stay calm and be yourself. Don't make huge efforts to engage him, just keep cool. Maybe mention that DP has told you something about him, a favourite activity or sport. He may be keen to chat to you about himself, he may be shyer and just want to observe and listen for a bit.
What a lovely thing he said about your effect on his dad! Bowling is a great activity to get you all relaxed and involved.
Enjoy!

Ah good luck.

I met my OH’s 2 kids (who were 6 & 9 at the time) after we’d been together for 9 months and we also went bowling (good choice).

My advice would be, be yourself, relax and don’t try too hard.

Best of luck.

Imagine you are meeting a friend’s child for the first time. The biggest mistake most prospective SMs make is to try too hard. Even if things go well, you won’t be a ‘parent’ to this child for years, if ever. Just treat the child as you would your best friend’s child.

That's lovely that you are both so excited, but as others have said, just take it gently and let things develop at their own pace.

Good luck :)

You need to be friendly but not too much- be led by him. You love your partner- you 'love' his description of his child- you don't love someone you've never had any interaction with. Juts be yourself. Don't try to impress him, or try to make a good impression as such, juts treat him well and enjoy it x

An activity like that is perfect and I’m sure it’ll go well. I first met mine at the park, we fed the ducks and DSD kept asking me to take her to the loo as it was a novelty not having to go to the gents with her dad! In at the deep end

I knew several DC around the same age and asked DH about what they were interested in, then just got chatting. We didn’t make plans post park and they asked if we could all go for dinner afterwards so we went with the flow and it was a really special day I still look back on fondly. Getting to know them and love them and be part of their lives has been such a privilege.

The main thing is to be normal and only be how you know you can carry on being - if that makes sense. I was keen they got to know me rather than a super fun version of me.

The next meet up I think they came to my flat to watch a film and have a pizza as they wanted to see where I lived. Then another time we did soft play (my utter hell!), and just built up bit by bit to spending more time together.

I was DH first relationship after he and their mum split and they were pleased he had a gf so I had a pretty easy ride of it. Doing normal everyday stuff is the key. Don’t make every meet up an “occasion”. If your relationship becomes permanent and you choose to live together in time (assuming you don’t yet) you’ll find it easier if the dynamic is as simple as possible and no one’s under pressure to perform in a certain way.

Take your lead from your BF and his son, it was fascinating to see DH in dad mode and I loved him for it. His patience, kindness, sense of humour, his interest in everything they do, their beautiful bond, was and still is such a huge part of what I admire about him.

I hope it goes well. Just be yourself.