Is this the right thing to do ?

[Hailsey]

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, we are living together and I'm 15 weeks pregnant.
He his recently divorced , a few months.an has two young kids both under the age of 10.
I sadly had a miscarriage a few months ago, and then quite quickly found out I was pregnant again.
My partners ex likes to get involved and makes comments about our relationship when she see him and in the past she has had her friends send me abusive messages, that my oh has done nothing about.
The thing is, I got on really well with his children, then once their mum found out about the baby, the kids are now really rude towards me. I try an speak to them an they just totally ignore me, and they've been ruining things I've bought for the baby or cutting up scan photos.
My OH does not discipline his children at all an refuses to say anything to his ex about her behaviour.
What can I say to let him know I feel uncomfortable? An when he's got his kids should I stay at a friends/relatives? I'm just trying to do right by the kids aswell as I don't want them feeling pushed out but talking about it with him doesn't help.

@Hailsey are you the same poster than had the frame for the scan & your DP told the DSC it was nothing when they questioned it?

You've done everything much too quickly. The kids just about managed to get their heads around their parents not being together any longer, seeing their dad once a week or so rather than evety day, having a new family member with influence in their lives and now a sibling who will get what they've had no choice but to have taken away from them, that is their dad in their life daily.

Sadly you and him didn't think about them only what you wanted for yourself assuming they would be as happy with it as you are. They are not and you can't go back now. All you can do is try to reassure them, not just by promises but by a tiims that shows that their dad is still making them his priority. Not easy to do when he has to also show you the attention you deserve as his pregnant partner.

Hope time will make things better rather than worse.

You're not doing the right thing by your unborn child if you "run away" every weekend. Your child is their sibling and your partner should be helping his kids and not encouraging their destructive behaviour.

Yanbu to be angry that they break things deliberately and need to be more than "uncomfortable" With the kids acting like this, will you even be able to guarantee your child's safety?

You and your partner have moved insanely fast and I'm not surprised that his children are acting out. He needs to step up as a parent and make better decisions like preparing the kids for their new sibling. The fact that he won't tell his ex to leave you alone proves that he's not ready to be dating never mind being a Dad again. He's piss poor Dad material if he won't discipline his kids and I suspect that you'll end up in that blended family stereotype with stepchildren being treated as kings and your child as second class.

Agree with other posters, I understand why you are upset with them destroying things however neither of you thought of their feelings when you moved so quick.

Your DP allegedly threatened to kick you out of your own 4 bedroomed house, because he thought you were ignoring his DC I recall.

You have bigger problems than his DC in that case.

I recall things didn't quite add up from your previous threads.